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    Anyone succesfukky hit the life "restart button" and just start over?

    Ok I hope this isn't a bit much for the OC, but I'm hoping someone on here has just said screw it with their current life and walked away to start over. Would love to hear pros and cons.

    Here's the deal and I'll keep it short. 34yo male, not married, no kids. Have lived in AZ for 30 years now. I've been in my current job for 10 years and to be honest, it's not my thing anymore. Actually, the only reason I have that job is so I can pay for all this crap I don't really need. My thoughts lately have been, why not quit, sell everything I own, cash our my little retirement, load the bike and dogs in the jeep, and go. Where? I have no idea and that's part of the appeal to me. I've only seen 5 states, never left the country, all I know is the daily grind in the desert that makes me feel like a zombie. Has anyone over done this before? Just leave your old life behind and start a new one somewhere else? Ideally I'd like to spend some time traveling around, and hopefully run into something that inspires me. Then eventually come back and finish my engineering program. So? Any takers or am I just crazy to want to start over?

    Oh and sorry if OC wasn't the right place for this

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    You mentioned that you need to finish up an engineering program. Does that mean you're taking time off from school to work? I say finish school, get a degree and get a good engineering job. In this economy finding steady work is paramount. Nothing beats a paycheck. That way you can fund bikes, travel and the other things that make life enjoyable.
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    1998, 23 years old and fed up. Picked up and left AZ to go to CT making more money and doing what I wanted for a change. I'm 39 now, married, first kid coming in April and life is pretty damn good.
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    +1 Finish the education. If sick of the desert, take a job elsewhere. Without a solid income it's pretty hard to play, and travel..

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    First. World. Problems.

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    I haven't done it, but I say go for it, while the dogs are able to run on the trails with you.

    Casyhing in that retirement scares me, tho. Better plan to budget to the max. Maybe stay with fellow mtb'ers to ease the cash crunch?
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    Come work for me, you'll realize you've got it pretty good now, lol.

    Seriously, in 2006 I walked away from 13 years at General Motors as a prototype Tool & Die Maker, because I was stagnating and I was tired of Michigan weather. I'm now in Phoenix, spent 4 1/2 years as Production Manager at one shop, now Operations Manager of a division for another company. The sky now is the limit. And the weather ain't all bad either.

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    And as FP says, hands off the retirement. You'll hate yourself in 20 years for spending it. Compounding returns is where it's at.

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    You are on here looking for advice and everyone is going to give you a different opinion. But it is really up to you to dig deep and figure out what the root cause of your problem is. Is it really your job or is something else? If you are iffy on where your education is going to take you in life go see a career counselor and take some personality assessments. It is never too late to hit the restart button but make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. In my opinion money doesn't buy happiness but it buys freedom which brings happiness and it provides you with the resources to do the things you enjoy. I agree with the other posts...finish your education and figure stuff out while you have a good job. I've have had the same thoughts as you but I realized for me personally it was better to figure things out and come up with a plan before I hit the reset button. With that said...I wish I had the balls to do what the OP is considering.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimus View Post
    And as FP says, hands off the retirement. You'll hate yourself in 20 years for spending it. Compounding returns is where it's at.
    And won't he be taxed to the gills for cashing it in?
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    Wow thanks for all the replies. I'd definitely get taxed on the retirement, but there's not a whole lot in there anyways so in the end it probably wouldn't hurt my retirement chances down the road. I guess the source of this is my fear of waking up in ten years realizing I'm still doing the same thing and wasted my time. Right now I'm working full time and going to school full time, either way finishing my education is #1, just wondering if a change of scenery would help motivate me to kick ass and finish it quicker or point me towards what I really want to do. I read a quote the other day that sort of fueled this more:
    "If all you know is that your life is taking you somewhere you don't want to go, you may need to take a leap of faith and walk away before you figure out what to do next"
    My biggest regret is staying at my current job for 10 years, and I've spent my entire life in a 5 mile square radius of the same city. Haha alright sorry for the rant, just nice to get other people's perspectives sometimes. Time to go ride

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    Late 80's when we experienced the huge real estate bust I was self employed as an architectural draftsman. The business had a good run for about 12 years but the bust meant a lack of business so i had to fold it. I had no clue what i wanted to do but needed a job.... Instead, I sold a lot of the crap I had accumulated, found a nice lady to rent my house and drove to Florida to hook up with a friend that was working sailing charters. I spent the next 6 years crewing crossings on private owned sailboats (owners want their boat delivered to XX island but don't want the work of making the crossing) .

    I was able to experience most of the islands between Florida and Venezuela and make enough money to be able to enjoy the islands between crossings.

    After the 6 years I returned to Az and settled into the grind and have been in my current job and with my current GF for 25 years.

    When i retire, I'm buying a sailboat and returning to the islands.

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    You are certainly sounding burned out. Going to school and working full time could be taxing. Have you considered either cutting back on work or even just doing school full time? Maybe consider making time to take a vacation. I would caution walking away from everything without a solid plan and opportunity for something else. Dropping everything to go "find yourself" sounds good but reality is going to smack you in the face before too long.

    You live in AZ, take a trip to Utah or southern CO for some epic riding. A change of scenery is a good thing but maybe consider temporary changes.
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    A wholesale dropping of everything and leaving is very risky.

    Weigh things out & then make a decision. All of us at one time or another have wanted to bail.

    Let that small nest egg build up. Don't touch it.
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    When you ask if anyone has "succesfukky" hit the restart button, does that mean have they screwed it up? In my experience, if you want to make such a quantum shift, you need to make a quantum shift with the baggage you take with you. If you do what you are suggesting, but take the same crap you have weighing you down now, you will succesfukky fukk it up again, sooner or later.
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    I am going to be 34 myself next June and have an opposite view of life right now. One of the best things I did was listen to my supervisor when I first started at my job almost 10 years ago to start my 401K right away. Touching that account is not even a thought of mine because I know I will thank myself later on.

    I have thought about changing careers or finding a less stressful job in finance but then I always remember that "the grass is greener on the other side" mentality. I like having a set schedule of working Monday through Friday with weekends off to play and enjoy my income. But that is me and I am not you.

    Some people like a spontaneous life as a whole where I enjoy stability with the ability to do spontaneous things from time to time. I paid my way through college and have pride in my accomplishments so I think if you do what makes you feel accomplished happiness will follow. A lot of people envision a life of more play with less work as being the cream of the crop but I feel like I have witnessed a lot of people with nothing but time on their hands being somewhat dissatisfied with their lives. You need income to play and if you can find a way to get that without the grind then more power to you, some people successfully make that happen.

    While I agree that life is short and enjoy it while you can.. I also realize that if I stay busy and active I will enjoy life for many more years and am in no rush to "live life like its your last day on earth." Sure I want to live life and not be a desk rat or couch potato but I have many friends who are older than me enjoying the same things I do (ok, I'm talking about mostly mountain biking). So find that balance of not regretting what you did and not regretting what you didn't do.. If that makes any sense.

    And lastly, don't listen to us.. we are strangers on a mountain bike forum for cripes sake..!

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    Why not sell everything, cash out all your savings and retirement, and move to Hollywood and become an actor?

    You may have to wait tables and work odd-jobs for a few months or so until you're "discovered", but once that happens, you will have a glorious life of partys, coke and movie starlets to choose from.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gordon Shumway View Post
    And lastly, don't listen to us.. we are strangers on a mountain bike forum for cripes sake..!
    At least he didn't ask for marital advice.
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    Go for it.

    sell everything for an adventure. Save enough out to rent a small place for a few months in the end to find work and start school again. Leave the retirement. You've got enough crap to sell to live on ( if you dont, budget). sleep in the jeep. you could get by on $50 a day. You'll be staying south for the gooder weather now also.
    Maybe just an extended Vacation in Mexico?

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    Man, I missed what Rocker picked up on......successfukky.

    Why has Asian porn become a recurring theme in the OC?
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    Quote Originally Posted by net wurker View Post
    Man, I missed what Rocker picked up on......successfukky.

    Why has Asian porn become a recurring theme in the OC?
    Because its soooo hawt.

    Me so horny. Me so horny. Me love you long time
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    In 2000 following the stress of the Y2K crap I took a 1 month leave of absence from my job and spent that time driving exploring the Baja. It's really a nice friendly culture once you get south of Ensenada.

    And the food rocks!

    I recommend the Al Pastor at the little taco shack in Burro Bay just south of Mulege. Yummm

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    Skeeter97, without digging too deep, is your current line of work in any way related to something that you have any long term interest in? Are you just burned out on something that has good potential?

    I'm not against the idea picking up and relocating ...BUT... you should have a well laid out plan put together BEFORE you leave otherwise you could end up being even more unhappy than you are now.

    The fact that your life is currently circled in a 5 mile radius has saved you a ton on money in fuel expenses. That's a big plus. You also live in a seriously great mountain biking region. So, try to think of the bright side of things. Heck, even write it all down on paper in two categories, the good, and the bad. See which category outweighs the other. Find ways to improve or eliminate the stuff in the bad category with minimal changes to your life (if possible).

    There's also things you can do to improve your mood such as changes in your diet, a structured exercise plan, and mood enhancing supplements.

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    I've pondered this same question over the recent years. I own a business that has been greatly affected by our economic downturn. I saw a video a couple of videos that put things into perspective.

    One was on the Sunk Cost Philosophy. It describes my position in my career life.

    Sunk Cost Philosopy[/VIDEO]

    This video is pretty cool too about the psychology of the your future self.
    http://www.wimp.com/educational/psychologyfuture/

    Nothing wrong with a walk about. It's embraced in many cultures and starting to get more traction here in the US. Financially, I'm stuck and will wait my situation out a bit longer. I don't feel that walking right now is in my future self best interest. But, when I get the opportunity, I'll sell out and take a few years to figure things out.

    I don't necessarily agree with finishing school. If you have a passion to be an engineer, then yes. But it too can be a sunk cost.

    Cashing out your 401k has a 10% penalty and you pay taxes. So, it's a pretty big hit. But you're the only one that can decide if it's worth it to cash out your savings. If I did it, I'd look at the tax implications. Cash out in the next tax year so you can reduce your exposure to the IRS hit.

    My wife quit here job a few years ago. She had a few years worth of salary saved up, not 401k but just savings. She's basically spending some of her retirement money now to enjoy life.

    Good luck on your decision.

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    I've packed up and done a restart twice. Getting ready to do it a third time.
    14 years military
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    Spilling booze and a few other things since then
    Can't wait, the sh!t's getting deep and need a change from northeast trails anyway.
    I'll basically have nothing but a garage full of bikes and a grin at retirement age but I'm not worried. I've been practicing for my retirement gig....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phillbo View Post
    In 2000 following the stress of the Y2K crap I took a 1 month leave of absence from my job and spent that time driving exploring the Baja. It's really a nice friendly culture once you get south of Ensenada.

    And the food rocks!

    I recommend the Al Pastor at the little taco shack in Burro Bay just south of Mulege. Yummm
    A company I do business with had an employee that did just that. Cool and very nice young man. He spent 6 months in Baja. He had a blast. He came back and started getting headaches. Long and short, the doctors found a worm was eating his brain. The doc's speculated he was infected from eating tainted meat from a street side food stand. They irradiated his brain, killed the worm, but he still has seizures and headaches. Plus he didn't have healthcare insurance, so he's very in debt. It's too soon to tell if he has permanent brain damage. Life can be very cruel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by net wurker View Post
    Why not sell everything, cash out all your savings and retirement, and move to Hollywood and become an actor?

    You may have to wait tables and work odd-jobs for a few months or so until you're "discovered", but once that happens, you will have a glorious life of partys, coke and movie starlets to choose from.
    Deke might need a stand-in for his "Orgasm Hunter" reality series.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mookie View Post
    Because its soooo hawt.

    Me so horny. Me so horny. Me love you long time
    Easy Mookie, you live in Utah now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Poe4soul View Post
    A company I do business with had an employee that did just that. Cool and very nice young man. He spent 6 months in Baja. He had a blast. He came back and started getting headaches. Long and short, the doctors found a worm was eating his brain. The doc's speculated he was infected from eating tainted meat from a street side food stand. They irradiated his brain, killed the worm, but he still has seizures and headaches. Plus he didn't have healthcare insurance, so he's very in debt. It's too soon to tell if he has permanent brain damage. Life can be very cruel.
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    Haha ok first of all, sorry for the typo on "succesfukky!" Thanks for finally pointing that out, I'd change it but I don't know how to edit a title..
    Whoever said I sound burnt out hit the nail on the head. Long story short, my current job was supposed to lead into my career, but that didn't pan out, I've lost interest in that field and grow weary of doing the same old job every day... Don't get me wrong, I'm extremely thankful to have a job like this, but at the end of the day I'd like to think there's a lot more I can do. Staying at my current job offers zero chance of change for the future.
    And just to be clear, I have no intention of just walking away and doing nothing. I'm just curious about the possibility of leaving the past 30 years behind and starting over somewhere new. Take only what I need and go find a place that gives me a good vibe, finish my degree there and see where it goes..
    Definitely appreciate all the feedback. Yeah you're a bunch of strangers, but you're strangers who share the same passion as I do for hobbies, some have experienced this dilemma themselves, and most importantly strangers who won't sugar coat things like friends and family may do. You guys all kick ass!
    I'm liking the idea of maybe just getting away for a month. Visit some of the state's I've always wanted to see, and if something happens and I move there, great! If not at least I wouldn't have burnt any bridges and can still come back home.
    And trust me, moving to Hollywood isn't an option. NOBODY would pay money to see my ugly mug on screen, and my acting skills are probably even worse than my riding skills

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    We all get burned out. Perhaps a break in the action will cheer you up enough to keep going. I take short frequent breaks to keep me going.

    Exclude your job for a moment and take look around you. Do you like what you see where you live now if your work situation was different?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skeeter97 View Post
    Haha ok first of all, sorry for the typo on "succesfukky!" Thanks for finally pointing that out, I'd change it but I don't know how to edit a title..
    Whoever said I sound burnt out hit the nail on the head. Long story short, my current job was supposed to lead into my career, but that didn't pan out, I've lost interest in that field and grow weary of doing the same old job every day... Don't get me wrong, I'm extremely thankful to have a job like this, but at the end of the day I'd like to think there's a lot more I can do. Staying at my current job offers zero chance of change for the future.
    And just to be clear, I have no intention of just walking away and doing nothing. I'm just curious about the possibility of leaving the past 30 years behind and starting over somewhere new. Take only what I need and go find a place that gives me a good vibe, finish my degree there and see where it goes..
    Definitely appreciate all the feedback. Yeah you're a bunch of strangers, but you're strangers who share the same passion as I do for hobbies, some have experienced this dilemma themselves, and most importantly strangers who won't sugar coat things like friends and family may do. You guys all kick ass!
    I'm liking the idea of maybe just getting away for a month. Visit some of the state's I've always wanted to see, and if something happens and I move there, great! If not at least I wouldn't have burnt any bridges and can still come back home.
    And trust me, moving to Hollywood isn't an option. NOBODY would pay money to see my ugly mug on screen, and my acting skills are probably even worse than my riding skills
    How about this? Bring your camping stuff to the end of the trail at Hogan, camp there for a month or two ((free!), work on the trails for us, catch fish, go into town, kayak, work on the trails some more, drink some beer, so on, so forth. Sounds like a good time to me!
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    So much at play here. Do you have debt? Sounds like you make good coin if you comfortable with your retirement money at age 34. If you have a specific dream/goal, and it's impossible to accomplish where you are then you'll have to decide if security is more important than your dreams. It's a question most everybody has to answer at some point, and usually life makes the decision for us. Personally, if I was single, no kids, no debts, no attachments that would make it foolish for me to take off, I'd strongly consider it. I wouldn't cash out my retirement though. Doesn't take a lot of money to keep a single person afloat. When I was 34, I was living off $14000/year while trying to finish up Grad school.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hawg View Post
    We all get burned out. Perhaps a break in the action will cheer you up enough to keep going. I take short frequent breaks to keep me going.

    Exclude your job for a moment and take look around you. Do you like what you see where you live now if your work situation was different?
    Yep, I'm always burnt out with work and then the weekend comes! Or trips for riding, relaxing, whatever. I'm not "burnt out" like I used to be, but sometimes I sure could use a toke!

    OP - Take a break, bang some broads, ride some trails.. Then get back to business! Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crankout View Post
    Well, fokk! Remind me not to invite you to any of my summer gatherings, Debbie Downer!
    OK.

    It was very weird experience. More for him I bet. I'd go to his office and talk to him about his trip. Very cool stories, then he starts getting headaches, etc. Next he's in the hospital getting test, and then they irradiate him to kill the worm. He jokes that he should have chewed the worm in the tequila. This whole process takes about 2 months after he returned.

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    Just had a kick ass post school ride at one of my favorite trails here. With all these comments in mind I think I've sorted this out. Plan is to bust ass and finish this semester. Ride until my legs don't work over winter break, kill it next semester then this summer take my month away from everything and go explore. I've always wanted to move to Bend so I'll spend some time up there and some other places on my list. If something blows my skirt up enough, I'll look into schools there. Definitely need to get out of my job though, that's what's killing me. You guys all rock. I'm pleasantly surprised with the overwhelming responses this thread got, wasn't sure I'd even get one. Not bad for a bunch of strangers

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    ^^^^ no idea why Mr. Smiley up there is blushing, damn phones

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skeeter97 View Post
    Just had a kick ass post school ride at one of my favorite trails here. With all these comments in mind I think I've sorted this out. Plan is to bust ass and finish this semester. Ride until my legs don't work over winter break, kill it next semester then this summer take my month away from everything and go explore. I've always wanted to move to Bend so I'll spend some time up there and some other places on my list. If something blows my skirt up enough, I'll look into schools there. Definitely need to get out of my job though, that's what's killing me. You guys all rock. I'm pleasantly surprised with the overwhelming responses this thread got, wasn't sure I'd even get one. Not bad for a bunch of strangers
    Sounds good and sounds positive.

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    I am 20 years older than you but did it in my late 20's and again two years ago. Left a big corporate job with obscene pay - I hated it. Love my job now. Get your degree only if you like the field of study. If you do like your field of study then make the degree a priority - unfortunately it makes a difference in job options. Go for it - there a a million reason why not to do it. Do some planning but make a change. Life goes by much to fast to waste time in a place and job you don't like.

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    Good advice so far. I want to add that there is probably no job that you will like so much that you still can't wait to get to get up and go to work every morning 30 years from now. Having to do it takes the some of fun out of it. That's why I will never work in the bicycling or sex industry -- gotta leave something to enjoy

    Do you really hate your field, or just your job? Do you have aptitude in your field -- are you really good at it? If so, I would really think hard before doing something else.

    Two things that give my life meaning: #1, Serving your fellow man. Whether you are working with inner-city children or an exec at a big corporation providing widgets or whatever to people and making an insane amount of money doing it, it's good. I understand getting burned out -- people work too hard. Whatever you do, living within your means is the only way to go. But screwing off the rest of my life -- while I would like to have that option -- I don't think it is something that would make me happy.

    #2, my wife, my best friend, the coparent of my children, and my girlfriend (all the same person ). We aren't meant to go thru life alone.

    Careers and spouses -- a lot of work and even heartache at times, but well worth it IMO.

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    1998, 23 years old and fed up. Picked up and left AZ to go to CT making more money and doing what I wanted for a change. I'm 39 now, married, first kid coming in April and life is pretty damn good.
    In '82 @ 28 I packed it in and hit the road, quit my job @IBM and became a Contract Engineer. Mostly I was into Windsurfing and Skiing, then MTB and Skiing, so I worked up and down the east coast, about one year each in NC/MA/VA/AZ/TX/FL, 5 years in Europe(.at/.be/.de), last 20 here in CA. Initially I would save my money while working, the jobs lasted 6-12 months, and then travel/play for 2-4 months.

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    Good advice so far. I want to add that there is probably no job that you will like so much that you still can't wait to get to get up and go to work every morning 30 years from now. Having to do it takes the some of fun out of it. That's why I will never work in the bicycling or sex industry -- gotta leave something to enjoy

    Do you really hate your field, or just your job? Do you have aptitude in your field -- are you really good at it? If so, I would really think hard before doing something else.

    Two things that give my life meaning: #1, Serving your fellow man. Whether you are working with inner-city children or an exec at a big corporation providing widgets or whatever to people and making an insane amount of money doing it, it's good. I understand getting burned out -- people work too hard. Whatever you do, living within your means is the only way to go. But screwing off the rest of my life -- while I would like to have that option -- I don't think it is something that would make me happy.

    #2, my wife, my best friend, the coparent of my children, and my girlfriend (all the same person ). We aren't meant to go thru life alone.

    Careers and spouses -- a lot of work and even heartache at times, but well worth it IMO.
    I just hate the job honestly, it was never supposed to last this long. Basically what happened is, for the first 25+ years of my life I wanted to be a firefighter, so I got a job as a dispatcher. Well, 10 years later I never could manage to get hired as a FF and I'm still dispatching. And in all honesty taking all these calls for the past 10 years has sort of burnt me out in that area, so I decided it was time for a change and went back to school for engineering. Don't get me wrong it's a great job that I have, just nothing I would ever see myself doing as a career. 34 years old and I'm already maxed out in pay there, so there's basically nowhere else to go in that job.

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    I just hate the job honestly, it was never supposed to last this long. Basically what happened is, for the first 25+ years of my life I wanted to be a firefighter, so I got a job as a dispatcher. Well, 10 years later I never could manage to get hired as a FF and I'm still dispatching. And in all honesty taking all these calls for the past 10 years has sort of burnt me out in that area, so I decided it was time for a change and went back to school for engineering. Don't get me wrong it's a great job that I have, just nothing I would ever see myself doing as a career. 34 years old and I'm already maxed out in pay there, so there's basically nowhere else to go in that job.
    I feel like I should word that differently. I don't hate the job, it's just that I'm burnt out with it, and there is nowhere else to go with it. I've sort of "peaked" as a dispatcher if that makes sense

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skeeter97 View Post
    I just hate the job honestly, it was never supposed to last this long. Basically what happened is, for the first 25+ years of my life I wanted to be a firefighter, so I got a job as a dispatcher. Well, 10 years later I never could manage to get hired as a FF and I'm still dispatching. And in all honesty taking all these calls for the past 10 years has sort of burnt me out in that area, so I decided it was time for a change and went back to school for engineering. Don't get me wrong it's a great job that I have, just nothing I would ever see myself doing as a career. 34 years old and I'm already maxed out in pay there, so there's basically nowhere else to go in that job.
    Hang in there and get that engineering degree done. It sounds like you don't have a whole lot left to complete it.

    Just as an aside, with the dispatching experience you could probably get a job in some pretty prime riding places. I'm thinking CO, OR, MT or UT. A change of scenery might reenergize you. That being said I still support the engineering route but this is something to consider. I totally understand being maxed out in dispatching though.
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    Do it!
    No wife or kids? Go see something new. You can always move back in a year if you don't like it.

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    Then eventually come back and finish my engineering program.
    Please, oh please finish your engineering degree. Grind it out ASAP. It can open many other doors in your life. It is a big fat sign to any potential employer that says, I am smart and can independently solve complex problems. After the degree is done take the needed break with the security of knowing that you are highly employable in a wide range of jobs. Even if you do not intend on getting an engineering job if you are close (within 1 year of full time school) just get it done. Which type of engineering? (Civil engineer here)

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    Follow up question: when you say engineer I was assuming that you DID NOT mean the guy that drives a train.... that's a different type of engineer.

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    Very true, I can more than likely get a dispatching job just about anywhere with my experience. In fact I'd say that's still an option. I may be burnt out but I've got enough in me to at least finish school while dispatching.
    In regards to the questions about my schooling..... I'm currently on track for civil with environmental stuff thrown in. Ideally, I'd like to use this education to do something outside, like engineer for the forest service for example. Definitely seems like an overwhelming majority of people saying to stick with school, and that's the plan. No matter where this path takes me, I don't plan on missing even a single semester.
    Ucdengboss... Unfortunately I have two years of school left, going full time. Are you happy being a civil engineer? Haha and yeah, I'm not looking to be the train driving type, would be cool though!

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    Sorry, I ASSumed that you were currently working somewhere in the engineering field.

    By all means, if you have reached the top rung on the ladder where you are, and want to do more, time to get out. No question.

    Seriously consider getting a job -- any job -- or an internship in the civil/environmental field. It will make it much easier to get a job when you graduate.

    I was managing an IT shop in a hospital, and a kid who recently graduated couldn't find a job. He wanted to work for me for whatever I could pay. I didn't have budget for even minimum wage, it was illegal to pay him less, but he could work for free if he wanted. He said family was well-to-do and he didn't need the money, so OK. I told him I would be working overtime without pay to train him at first, so I needed a 6-month commitment, and he was expected to show up for work on time like everyone else. The kid was really good, learned quickly, and was well worth my effort training him. And got a job making darn near what I was.

    Plus you will find out if you really like the field or not. It's a pretty safe bet you will like it -- you could have chosen anything and you chose that. But if for some reason you don't, the sooner you find out the better.

    I'm not looking to be the train driving type, would be cool though!
    That would be a fun job for a little while. Great scenery. I like riding rails-to-trails for that reason. Being a train engineer is apparently easy to do. The union was on strike, and a friend of my mom's was an accountant or manager for the railroad. He ended up driving a train for a few weeks.

    Someone stopped and left the engines running while they went into a fast-food joint. It was all I could do to resist going in there and blipping the throttle. Those things have 4800hp or something like that!

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    My wife and I are in the process of trying to make this happen.
    We both have good jobs, and we are debt free. We are also very tired of being cogs in a wheel that we despise. I work in heavy industry and am a bit of a tree hugger. These two things don't get along well.
    We are finishing renovations on our home, going to sell it, and nearly everything else we own, buy a truck and fifth wheel and be gone.
    I am watching this thread with great interest!

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    My wife and I are in the process of trying to make this happen.
    We both have good jobs, and we are debt free. We are also very tired of being cogs in a wheel that we despise. I work in heavy industry and am a bit of a tree hugger. These two things don't get along well.
    We are finishing renovations on our home, going to sell it, and nearly everything else we own, buy a truck and fifth wheel and be gone.
    I am watching this thread with great interest!
    That's awesome! Too many folks just sit around unhappy in places they don't want to be.

    I was offered a job right after college, but it required moving from Sask to Indiana. 20 years old never lived outside of my parents house lol. Best move I ever made.
    This year my wife & I moved from Indiana to north Idaho. Its great.

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    Just remember to enter the following button sequence after you hit the restart button, it'll make your life a million times more awesome

    ↑ ↑ ↓ ↓ ← → ← → B A Start

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    Quote Originally Posted by aerius View Post
    Just remember to enter the following button sequence after you hit the restart button, it'll make your life a million times more awesome

    ↑ ↑ ↓ ↓ ← → ← → B A Start
    What Nintendo game is that from?....I remember it for some reason lol

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    To the OP...

    I'd say go for it. Life is short then you die. So what.

    Which is exactly why I'm trying to do the same thing (see above).
    I did it when I was 19. Took off from home and went and lived on Mackinac Island while working (like a dog) for the Grand Hotel. After that summer I sold everything else I had including my car at the time. Jumped in a truck with a guy that was headed to Big Sky Montana and that's where I was for a year.
    Had nothing to my name but a duffelbag full of clothes and three snowboards. Got a job with housing and a ski pass and rode the **** out of Big Sky and Bridger Bowl. Still the best year of my life.
    Came back to Michigan for reasons no one wants to hear about. Got a job as a machinist and 20 years later getting ready to do it again.

    If you do go for it, look me up.
    Any good with a paint brush? You could camp on my property and help me finish up so I can do what your going to do. In the meantime I can show you all the good places to ride in N. Michigan.

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    What Nintendo game is that from?....I remember it for some reason lol
    That was from Contra. Gives you 30 lives so that people like me who suck at video games could get past level 2.

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    Dang. Thought I had it. Each game had it's own cheat codes.

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    Anyone succesfukky hit the life "restart button" and just start over?

    I worked with a guy that "retired" at age 40. He had paid off all his bill, kids were grown up and moved on with life, no wife, no girlfriend. He said he had his good health and wanted to travel the world while he was young and able. He sold off most of his belongings, put the rest of his stuff in storage, quit his job and away he went.
    I don't work at that company anymore, but I know he was back in 6 months. He had been to Australia but that was it. Seems like things did not work out very well for him.
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    Wow so much to respond,
    FtI'm so happy this thread is getting this much use! You know, the more I think about it, the more I realize why I'm in thus position go begin with. Material posessions and I suck with money. What do I do the day after I get hired at my job? Buy a car. Month later? A house. Then it snowballed into the point to where I felt stuck. Don't like the job, but I cant afford my house and new Jeep without it. OH and nevermind the new Fuel Ex Project One XO1 build I picked up, that can stay off the list

    My point is, I guess the security that paycheck brought me managed to hold me down for 10 years. Now that I'm older I realize it isn't what you own that matters, it's loving the life you live. This questions for the fellow big city folk.. You ever notice how, when you walk into a small town restaurant, how it's almost overwhelming with how polite and friendly people are? Here in Phoenix, not so much. 15 years ago I spent some in southern Oregon, ate the same place every day. Finnally I asked my waitress, why does literally everyone seem so happy. Laid back, not in a rush, smiling, just happy. She says "simple honey, it's an amazing living enviroment out here, we have better quality of life." That one stuck with me for a while

    At this point it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. Time to pick my next stop in life. Needs to have two things, a competent engineering program, and killer trails from XC to all out chunk fest... ok maybe one more requirement, good looking ladies. I mean, I am single still

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    And for the Michigan guy, if I find my way in the area I'll definitely lend a helping hand in exchange for trail knowledge

    Also, for the others looking at doing this also, keep me posted! I'd love to hear how other people's journeys are going

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    I'm married with a kid and a mortgage but I'm about to be forced into a life reset: my company has decided to cut the programs I'm involved in so after 21 years of hard work and dedication I will be kicked to the curb, along with about a hundred others.

    Thing is my company is doing really well so it's not like this is necessary, and us employees will suffer, customers will suffer and the company may make a penny more on their stock price.
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    ^ Sorry to read this. Unfortunately, this has become far too common.

    Do all that you dream while you're young. Harsh to say, yet the fact is reactions are much faster at 21 then when 45.

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    Very true, I can more than likely get a dispatching job just about anywhere with my experience. In fact I'd say that's still an option. I may be burnt out but I've got enough in me to at least finish school while dispatching.
    In regards to the questions about my schooling..... I'm currently on track for civil with environmental stuff thrown in. Ideally, I'd like to use this education to do something outside, like engineer for the forest service for example. Definitely seems like an overwhelming majority of people saying to stick with school, and that's the plan. No matter where this path takes me, I don't plan on missing even a single semester.
    Ucdengboss... Unfortunately I have two years of school left, going full time. Are you happy being a civil engineer? Haha and yeah, I'm not looking to be the train driving type, would be cool though!
    Sorry for the slow response. Yes I am very happy doing civil work. I took a total of 5 years to get my degree. Started my job in 2003 after graduation and have been at it ever since. I did not continue to get a masters, but my grades and relationships with professors was good enough that it was an option.

    I found the last 2 years of school to be the best by far. It was also the toughest. The upper division engineering load was heavy and time consuming. That being said the stuff you learn about is very cool. I took the minimum in geotechnical, environmental, traffic, and water resources. I took nearly every structural class. Loved it.... Our firm does not do a lick of structural work

    Just hammer through it. You can really do whatever you like after having that degree for work. I think that the Forrest service is a prime example of a potential job outside of a strict engineering job that a civil degree can get you into.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aerius View Post
    That was from Contra. Gives you 30 lives so that people like me who suck at video games could get past level 2.
    We knew it as the Kanami (spelling?) Code. In that it would work on all or most games made by that company. I don't remember exactly which ones they made but I do remember it working on more than one game and it certainly worked on Contra.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thegweed View Post
    I'm married with a kid and a mortgage but I'm about to be forced into a life reset: my company has decided to cut the programs I'm involved in so after 21 years of hard work and dedication I will be kicked to the curb, along with about a hundred others.

    Thing is my company is doing really well so it's not like this is necessary, and us employees will suffer, customers will suffer and the company may make a penny more on their stock price.
    Been there, done that. . . . . Twice. 15 years each time. In some ways, it can be tough, but in others, it may lead to better times (depending on how you define 'better times'). They were both good jobs, but in some ways, they did me a big favor.

    The days of doing 30 to 40 years at one gig, and then retiring, are getting extremely rare. Govt jobs being somewhat of an exception, but even those are getting tricky to survive for the duration.

    To the OP, better to do it on your own terms rather than theirs. Never up, never in. If you're at the top of your pay grade, you can likely find work doing that somewhere else if you have to. And, being single and relatively unencumbered, your not going to put stress on anyone but yourself if things don't go as planned.

    Nothing wrong with sticking with the P-Line, it just isn't that exciting. . . . day after day. . . . . month after month. . . . . year after year.

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