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    How much money can you spend before you have to ask?

    How much money can you spend on bike related gear before you have to ask your significant other? I work in a bike shop and I recently had a customer call his wife 3 times to ask if he could spend $50. Personally, I would hire a divorce lawyer if I had to call my husband every time I spent $50 at a bike shop.

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    I always ask myself if my wife would even notice if I bought a new piece of bike gear. The answer is always no.
    I win.

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    I have a no questions asked bike account for misc purchase, if fact she she has a "fun" account too. Our allowance goes in every two weeks. This makes life much easier for us!

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    I've brought home plenty of guns, bikes and a new truck w/o asking. I s'pose i I were gonna buy a house I'd need to ask.

    3 calls for fitty bucks is horrid.

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    $50
    For some of us, that's a chunk of the budget....but it's me that makes the call b/c I know what we have to work with.
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    Well; did he or didn't he buy? ;-)

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    It might depend on just how many times he's recently spent "$50 on gear".

    Sometimes Marriage + expensive hobby = tension

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    Its a matter of just communication with me and mine. I always check cause she does the books. Been married fer 29 years. What ever works!

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    Quote Originally Posted by givati View Post
    Its a matter of just communication with me and mine. I always check cause she does the books. Been married fer 29 years. What ever works!
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    Maybe it wasn't so much about him asking if he can buy $50 worth of bike bits, as much as it is to make sure SHE wasn't about to drop $500+ on a pair of Prada, and their sum totals puts the bank account into the BS check fee territory?

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    For the most part me and my wife have seperate finances. We have a common account for our living expenses, house, insurances, cell phones etc, everything else we pocket in our own accounts and spend how we please.
    We check with each other when things are going to be pricey, but our answer usually is "it's your money spend it how you want."
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    Quote Originally Posted by givati View Post
    Its a matter of just communication with me and mine. I always check cause she does the books. Been married fer 29 years. What ever works!
    This.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pau11y View Post
    Maybe it wasn't so much about him asking if he can buy $50 worth of bike bits, as much as it is to make sure SHE wasn't about to drop $500+ on a pair of Prada, and their sum totals puts the bank account into the BS check fee territory?
    And this. Communication is a good thing.

    Quote Originally Posted by lubes17319 View Post
    $50
    For some of us, that's a chunk of the budget....but it's me that makes the call b/c I know what we have to work with.
    Coordinating purchases, especially if your disposable monthly budget is tight, is the key to harmony.

    Now, that said, having to call 3 time might be excessive. You either have that available or you don't at the moment. It won't change from one call to the next.

    And if it is a controlling type issue, I'm with you... that relationship probably won't last.

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    Having the same hobby helps.
    "Honey, Can I get a new V10?"
    "Not until I get my Demo 8."

    Something to that nature.
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    Quote Originally Posted by spaightlabs View Post
    I've brought home plenty of guns, bikes and a new truck w/o asking. I s'pose i I were gonna buy a house I'd need to ask.

    3 calls for fitty bucks is horrid.
    Pretty funny. I just bought a new shotgun, and my wife shrugged, until I told her it was for HER, then she was much more interested.

    I also bought a brand new pickup on my lunch hour once. She was happy she didn't have to pick me up from work that day.

    Bikes? I'm guessing there is a limit to how long a post can be, so I won't go there.

    We did shop jointly for the shelter.

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    He did buy the item' but he was VERY nervous about it! I assured him he could return it if there was a "problem".. The next day, I had a guy offer me hush money to not tell his wife about the new hubs he was buying. I agree, having the same hobby helps....A LOT. The time and money spent riding can be significant; it helps to have someone who understands, respects, and encourages it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by givati View Post
    Its a matter of just communication with me and mine. I always check cause she does the books. Been married fer 29 years. What ever works!
    I was married for 15 years, together and cohabitating for over 20. Unfortunately, even though I made most of the money I was the one who usually wanted the things that weren't really for "us".

    After I begged my way into a YBB at one point, I used to jokingly say "My next bike comes with divorce papers."

    Hmm, what happened exactly?

    Now that I'm on my own, there's nobody to ask permission from. Which made me like a kid in a candy store. I've gotten it under control to a certain extent, but after 5 years on my own; let's see if I can count the bikes.

    Seven. No wait, nine. Three guns. Two campers. How much gear? Oh my goodness I shouldn't really think about this...
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    Quote Originally Posted by eragirl View Post
    He did buy the item' but he was VERY nervous about it! I assured him he could return it if there was a "problem".. The next day, I had a guy offer me hush money to not tell his wife about the new hubs he was buying. I agree, having the same hobby helps....A LOT. The time and money spent riding can be significant; it helps to have someone who understands, respects, and encourages it.
    The fact that you posted something like this suggest you're single. So how's about you take me out for a beer? I'm a cheap beer date; I don't really drink (beers).
    I'll even let you drive, JUST SO you'd know I'm a responsible with drinking/driving, yeah?


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    My wife and I don't ask for permission, we discuss or as I.E. pointed out it's more of a barter system.

    For us the discusison or barter sessions usually start around $250.
    You have just been mentally Rick Roll'd. Yup you're thinking about it right now aren't you? Don't fight it.

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    I ask and if it makes sense then its a go most of the time, This Xmas i told her i wanted to 303 Dh for WP this summer and her answer was Umm you just got your 575 so NO !! but For me gear this summer she is like if we have it than get it , My Summer Pass for Trestle is go ,SO i pick what makes sense and whats does not !!
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    I also found that if everything I buy is the same color it doesn't really get noticed quite as much...

    Her: Is that a new black shotgun?
    Me: That old thing? Nah.

    Me: Are those new black shoes?
    Her: These old things? Nah

    Her: Is that another new goose call?
    Me: This old thing? Nah

    Me: Is that a new pair of boots?
    Her: These old things? Nah

    Her: Is that a new mountain bike?
    Me: This, uh, no, I've uh, had this for awhile.
    Her: You sure? I didn't think you had a Yeti and I'd remember seeing a turquoise bike. I thought you had a Trek and a Specialized?
    Me: Nah, I'm uh, sure you've seen this before.
    Her: Why are you sweating?
    Me: It's uh, hot out here in the garage.
    Her: It's 26 degrees in here.
    Me: Is that a rat over there?
    Her: aaaaaaaah. What? What were we talking about?
    Me: I said Iike your boots.
    Her: Oh, thanks, they were on sale.
    Me: I'll be in in a minute.



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    Well my girlfriend works in the industry, and if I want to get a discount I have to ask her to buy my stuff for me. Luckily, she never says no In fact, on our very first date she brought me a new cassette that I told her I needed. It was then that I knew she was a keeper Seriously, how many chicks bring bike parts for you on a first date?!?! The only downside to all this is that I seem to always owe her money

    BTW, when do my hubs get in EraGirl?

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    I consider myself the significant other. But don't tell her I said that...
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    Quote Originally Posted by TomP View Post
    After I begged my way into a YBB at one point, I used to jokingly say "My next bike comes with divorce papers."

    Hmm, what happened exactly?

    Now that I'm on my own, there's nobody to ask permission from.
    I had to talk my way into a crappy trekbike. At least yours ended after a Moots.

    Yeah, you don't have to ask a g/f to buy bike stuff. If they participate in the bicycle lifestyle it's more fun to use somea those dollas and skillz to get them rolling as well.


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    I just go out and buy her something really nice at the beginning of the season. Last year it was a new $3000 road bike. Then the rest of the season, I'm justified in buying almost anything. I do the same thing with ski gear.

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    It all comes down to the need vs want - If I NEED to spend the money so i can ride there is no discussion - If I want something that I do not need then I ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mtblucas View Post
    The only downside to all this is that I seem to always owe her money
    That will never stop... ever.
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    "That will never stop... ever.:rolleyes"

    It will if my back tire does not get converted...

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    Quote Originally Posted by eragirl View Post
    "That will never stop... ever.:rolleyes"

    It will if my back tire does not get converted...
    Don't compromise your negotiation position Eragirl! Always keep it up. My wife says "Oh, you want a new CarbonC, eh? well, that means I get a bigger camper".
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    Quote Originally Posted by eragirl View Post
    "That will never stop... ever.:rolleyes"

    It will if my back tire does not get converted...
    What are you trying to convert? 26er to 29er? Black rubber to white rubber? no goo to white goo? Does your tire need to come out of the closet?
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    This past summer I wanted a new bike....So I bought my wife a new bike first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wooph View Post
    This past summer I wanted a new bike....So I bought my wife a new bike first.
    THIS is a good plan!

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    You guys are giving me a GREAT idea.. Being annoyed at the amount of money my boyfriend or husband spends on bikes might influence him to buy me a new bike..GENIUS

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    Quote Originally Posted by eragirl View Post
    You guys are giving me a GREAT idea.. Being annoyed at the amount of money my boyfriend or husband spends on bikes might influence him to buy me a new bike..GENIUS
    And with one of each like that... you'd get TWO bikes! lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by yogidave View Post
    It might depend on just how many times he's recently spent "$50 on gear".

    Sometimes Marriage + expensive hobby = tension
    Exactly!!
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    It's a married guy, he wants to have sex and doesn't want the $50 added to the list of "NO."

    I doubt he is the only guy who runs nearly everything money related past his wife.

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