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    What would you do?

    Have a little delima and need suggestions.

    Was out riding "Mtnbiking" today and while sitting on a log taking a break enjoying the scenery a biker approached me from the opposite direction.She instantly smiled,dismounted her bike and sat on the log sharing her interest in mtnbiking.She recently moved to the area and showed great interest in the vast trail systems we have in the area.She asked if it would be willing to ride with her so that she could feel more secure while learning the trails.

    Well...surely i would be a good candidate as I've ridden most of the many trails over a 20yr period.I was exactly what she was looking for and as a physiologist she claimed i was down to earth and trustworthy.

    Now the problem! don't laugh!
    This young lady is an exceedingly attractive lady with a very alluring personality.I'm a happily married man celebrating 27yrs of marriage.I was raised in a small mountain community with strong morals and was always taught never spend to much alone time with the opposite sex as to avoid worldly desires.My wife may appose also.

    Without being to rough on me,what kind of advice could you share and take into consideration...this girl is built for speed,active and single.

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    I have been in somewhat similar circumstances myself. I think it comes down to your take. If you strongly feel there could be trouble, avoid it.
    Personally I enjoy the platonic company of young women when Mtbing, Snowboarding etc.
    But these are always just that platonic.
    Just my 2 cents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bird View Post
    Have a little delima and need suggestions.

    Was out riding "Mtnbiking" today and while sitting on a log taking a break enjoying the scenery a biker approached me from the opposite direction.She instantly smiled,dismounted her bike and sat on the log sharing her interest in mtnbiking.She recently moved to the area and showed great interest in the vast trail systems we have in the area.She asked if it would be willing to ride with her so that she could feel more secure while learning the trails.

    Well...surely i would be a good candidate as I've ridden most of the many trails over a 20yr period.I was exactly what she was looking for and as a physiologist she claimed i was down to earth and trustworthy.

    Now the problem! don't laugh!
    This young lady is an exceedingly attractive lady with a very alluring personality.I'm a happily married man celebrating 27yrs of marriage.I was raised in a small mountain community with strong morals and was always taught never spend to much alone time with the opposite sex as to avoid worldly desires.My wife may appose also.

    Without being to rough on me,what kind of advice could you share and take into consideration...this girl is built for speed,active and single.



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    Send her my way

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    I'd start by single-spacing my sentences....

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    Maybe you could invite her on a larger group ride so she could meet some other mountain bikers in the area.

    I agree, if you aren't looking for trouble you shouldn't ride with her alone. It sounds like you are definitely attracted to her.

    I started a women's riding group because I found it awkward as a happily married female to ride with only guys (unless my hubby is one of them, which is rare due to our schedules). Fortunately other women came out of the woodwork when the word got out that there were some mountain bikin' chicks looking for riding partners.
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    Marriage simply works against the way we men are hardwired. I am not married because I know i will never say no to an alluring hot chick that comes my way which unfortunatly never happens. But as a matter of principle marriage is doomed to fail in most cases. I think if I was married to the same person for 27 an affair here or there would be necessary to keep sanity. I seriously couldn't imagine being too torn up over it either after so long with the same person.

    I know I sound like I'm trolling here but I am just being brutally honest.
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    your effed,

    unless you can make it a "group" ride.... then your not alone.. people will always talk, and thats what will piss of the wife. assuming she trusts you and you trust here, its all the little birds chirping at her that will make it an issue.
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    Don't tell your wife you know how she would react.

    You are man enough to admit its a challenge being around her, don't proceed. Then you have nothing to tell the wife about.

    Did you get her number or email?

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    GET NEKKID!!!

    Just kidding, I agree with the full disclosure with the wife thing, that one could really bite you in the azz down the road. Does your wife ride? If so, that would be a great way to introduce her to another female, and at the same time point out that you are in a commitment with someone else. Outside of that, find some free time while alone at the house....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bird View Post
    Have a little delima and need suggestions.
    ....I'm a happily married man celebrating 27yrs of marriage.I was raised in a small mountain community with strong morals and was always taught never spend to much alone time with the opposite sex as to avoid worldly desires..
    If this is true, then it should be no issue at all. Your wife should fully understand you guiding a lone young woman on a MTB ride on trails she is unfamiliar with... My wife would actually think I was a ******bag if this happened to me and I DID NOT offer to play trail guide

    ... but one word of advice, I recommend full disclosure, but you may not want to mention she was young and attractive
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    ... your idea of technical may be much different than other peoples idea of technical.

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    God why couldn't this have happened to me

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    My wife does not ride.She's a business woman who travels a lot and has no issue with me entertaining all my outdoor activities.

    I did receive a text from this young lady suggesting a ride tomorrow.She seems honest and excited about riding.I guess I'm just old-fashioned mainly riding solo and keeping to myself.

    Thanks for the replies

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    You trust her on her business trips she should trust you on the trails. Good defense huh?

    Sneak a pic of this chic in next time you see her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Alberto_ View Post
    You trust her on her business trips she should trust you on the trails. Good defense huh?

    Sneak a pic of this chic in next time you see her.
    Haha! Yea, and then upload it immediately here.

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    Bring a single biking buddy along with you when you ride with her. Or invite several others along on the ride. If she hits it off with one of them then bow out gracefully. Problem solved, and damsel in distress still gets a local guide.
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    Agreed with bringing along more riders.

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    You currently may have nothing to worry about concerning the alluring young lady.
    She has not given you any reason to think she sees you as a riding partner for anything other than trails.
    However, this glimpse you have provided of your current state of mind and your marriage is a bit troubling.
    You view the young lady as potentially more than a new riding partner and are already thinking that going for a bike ride with your potential new riding partner could lead to the destruction of your marriage.
    It would be horrible to chuck in 27 years of marriage for a young, vivacious, attractive female who shares your love of trails and finds you down to earth and trustworthy.
    There's no future in that.
    Best thing you can do for your marriage and sanity and for the entire population of single and attractive female mountain bikers is sell your bike and quit riding.
    I'd also suggest increasing your daily intake of beer, pizza, and ice cream to knock your attractiveness to single female mountain bikers down a few notches.
    It's the kind thing to do.

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    Make her ride in front of you.
    No, YOU don't understand. You're making an ass of yourself for all of eternity.

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    Resist the succubus by telling her you are a lone-wolf rider or she that she is not part of your wolf pack. Problem solved.

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    Pedal Hard!

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    Geez, 22 posts and no one's stated the obvious:

    Pics or it didn't happen!!!

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    God why couldn't this have happened to me
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    Step 1 send her my way. I am single.

    Seriously though, what you should do is nothing your wife would not approve of.
    That being said, I will assume you disclosed to the alluring girl in some way that you are a faithfully married man. Now the question is would you tell your wife what happened.
    If you have contact info and plan on meeting again, would you tell your wife?
    Would you introduce this girl to your wife?

    You see where this is all going.

    If you would not tell your wife, it is wrong.
    If your wife would not approve, it is wrong.
    If the shoe was on the other foot and it was your wife that met a guy and it would upset you, then it is also wrong.

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    First, consider yourself lucky to have seen one of the most beautiful and rare sights of the natural world... a cute single female mountain biker.

    Second, I think a group ride would be the best way to go about it. Check your local shops, almost all of mine have regular weekly group rides.

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    She probably sees you as a non-threatening, old, married guy. Don't look that much into it. Tell your wife all about it and treat the situation as though you're a coach. If she offers you a trail-side BJ, then you've got a decision to make. Otherwise, you're just thinking about this too much.
    No, YOU don't understand. You're making an ass of yourself for all of eternity.

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    Dude.. Lets set the stage a little better.

    You have been married for 27 years. So that makes you a little older right? If she is young she probably gravitated to you not because she wanted a relationship, but probably because she saw you as "Safe". She has probably meet a number of "guys" who "ride" only be more focused on hitting on her than actual riding. I expect that this woman is looking go riding. Period end of story.

    Now if you trust in your marriage and your wife. Just tell her what is going on and then think nothing of it. If she trusts you and you trust you things will be fine. I doubt the woman is looking you jump you in middle of the trail.
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    Also, what would you do if this were a guy the same age? Do exactly the same thing, regardless of gender.
    No, YOU don't understand. You're making an ass of yourself for all of eternity.

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    Ha! Joe - great advice
    No, YOU don't understand. You're making an ass of yourself for all of eternity.

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    I would tell your wife about it...not to ask permission but to share your experiences when you are out on the trail (I do this all the time with my wife). If your wife isn't secure enough to let you have a friendly bike ride with a member of the opposite sex or if you think you may stray from your wife then there are other issues there.
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    No, YOU don't understand. You're making an ass of yourself for all of eternity.

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    Vanity, vanity, all is vanity. Us older guys always fantisize that some young girl would be interested in us. What fools we become.
    Set in your mind that this young lady is the daughter you never had or better yet your sister . Take joy in the oppurtunity to teach someone the joys of MTBing. Introduce her to other MTBers, introduce her to your wife.

    Or if you feel tempted find a polite way to run away, the sooner the better.

    I'd love to hear some female perspective on this subject.
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    Not cheating in marriage is simple, DON'T EVER PUT YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION".

    This is putting yourself in that situation because you are asking questions about it.

    Pawn her off to a single buddy or group ride.

    Or, heck, try to bang her if you are wanting a divorce.

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    Or take her home to see if your wife wants to bang her. Giggity.
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    I wouldn't ride with her, plain and simple. No temptation, no problems.
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    Thinking with the wrong head, guy. Sounds like you already know that. Even if she's a badass rider that might make you a better rider yourself, and you have no interest in other than having a riding partner, we all know that it's still not a valid excuse.

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    If you are hooked into the local scene, point her in the direction of the local women's ride.

    I'm female, married 30 years, and out of respect for my hubby and my marriage, I don't buddy around with other guys, unless he's there and they are his buds. I read lots of other good options - invite others, group rides and so on. For all OP knows, she's going to be slow and harsh his ride anyway.

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    I didn't realize single female mountain bikers existed... sounds kinda like a unicorn.

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    It sounds like your wife won't be 'OK' with it so you have no real choice. My wife would know exactly what I was up to and laugh about it. Then she would co-opt the relationship...the young gal would prefer her to me as a riding partner and tour guide.....so my job would be to haul the food and water and otherwise enjoy the sights. I think it depends on your wife.

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    You are already in trouble if you gotta ask. Been married to a hot young mountain biker now for 16 years.

    I gotta ask; were you riding trails outside of Vegas???

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    not easy to stay married for 27 yrs.
    If you feel tempted, then avoid riding with her. just ride on diff schedule with her, then she will find another partner. like ride earlier, coz u gotta go later. or ride later, coz u r busy ealier, etc..

    if u think ur faith is strong enough, u can try ride with her once or twice. but still, kind of danger I think.
    Im sure she is a fine young lady just loving mtb like u. just avoid playing with fire.

    my experience:
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    approached by hot chick in the middle of trail ---- zero.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bailey44 View Post
    Not cheating in marriage is simple, DON'T EVER PUT YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION"....

    It does not work like that. Not cheating is not cheating. It takes self control on the one hand and respect and love for your wife on the other hand. What if this happens at work not on the Mtn bike trail. Do you refuse to work with an attractive co worker? No have some self control. Men (and women also) cheat either because they want to or have no self control.
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    Are we still talking about this? OP says he prefers to ride alone. If this was a young guy instead of a young woman, you wouldn't have exchanged numbers and you wouldn't be asking strangers for advice. You're thinking way too much about this. She isn't into you.

    For all you know, your wife hired her to figure out how you'd handle the situation.
    No, YOU don't understand. You're making an ass of yourself for all of eternity.

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    Maybe she is not even single.

    Let your wife know BEFORE you proceed with any rides with this woman. You know you would want your wife to do the same for you. Correct?

    When you are on a diet (married), don't walk past the donut shop sorta thing

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    riding mtn bikes together != romp in the sack.
    I ride with girls occasionally, and surprise of surprises, I have never done anything besides ride bikes with them.


    You: I found a new riding partner today, its an attractive young woman do you mind if I ride with her?
    Insecure wife: absolutely, you may get busy on the trail, with all that lycra etc...
    Evil wife: No problem, just let me know when you are going out (so she can slash your tires before you go every time)
    Reasonable (slightly insecure) wife: sure, no problem, just bring along someone else
    Perfect wife: Sure we can all go riding together next week, maybe I'll buy you a new bike so you can keep up with me this time.
    typical male fantasy wife: That sounds awesome, and then afterwards invite her back and we can take showers together.
    Reality wife: no
    my wife: Is she hot? Take Vic (friend) with you. If not, just don't crash like you always do.

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    Well, if she lays down her bike, throws off her clothes, and says "take what you want", then grab her bike and get the hell out of there.

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    Send her my way. I've been a trail guide and had to guide rich women from the Ritz Carlton and other high end local resorts. Even know much of the local flora.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Econoline View Post
    Well, if she lays down her bike, throws off her clothes, and says "take what you want", then grab her bike and get the hell out of there.
    Close the thread, we have a WINNER
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    ... your idea of technical may be much different than other peoples idea of technical.

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    I had a very similar situation. I'm happily married for 10 years, and a neighbor started dating this cute girl who likes to ride, and she asked me if I would take her out to show her around, and also because she doesn't like to ride alone. I was like, "sure....that sounds great...." I would never cheat on my wife (she's cuter than the new girl anyway ) but I know she would not want me to ride with her, either, so I don't. I made excuses the first 2-3 times, I'm busy all weekend or this or that, and very soon after that she found a group to ride with out of a shop, so all is good.

    I usually ride alone, so if all of a sudden this girl started tagging along, it would look very strange. I did tell my wife about her request, and she confirmed it would be a bad idea.

    Don't be a jerk to the new rider, but don't jeopardize your happiness and your wife's happiness to accommodate her. Nothing wrong with a group ride together
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    If a hot guy came out of the woods, sat down next to me and started talking I wouldn't mind. It's nice to have the attention and the conversation. I'd be leery of a guy I'd just met that said "I just moved here, looking for someone to ride with and would love to ride with you" after talking for awhile though. That would creep me out even if I was single.

    Maybe she is just looking for someone to ride with but I'd direct her to a group ride either organized or as a small group, just in case. If she's really into riding, she'll happily join up and make some great friends. If she's just into you (again, the attention is nice) she'll probably decline with the "I don't really know anyone but you" pout.

    I couldn't ride alone with another guy even if we'd been friends for years.

    If it doesn't seem right, it usually isn't. It's nice to have the attention and know you still got it after all these years, but that's all it is; attention. Maybe she's a great girl and really looking for someone to ride with, but it's not you.

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    If you have to ask, you know the answer. Don't. Oh, clear your cache and never return to this thread again.
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    This is gonna sound judgmental, but I don't mean it to. In reading the OP and the replies I can only conclude that there are a whole lot of shaky relationships out there. I kinda always figured MTBrs were more like fishermen (and fisherwomen) and less like golfers. To me the mellow vibe of MTBing just doesn't jive with all that crap. My 2 cents.

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    lol a variety of advice and suggestions.thankyou

    Ok...i did ride today and had fun.she is actually a superb rider and not looking for a relationship.She is simular to my wife,career driven,ambitious and loves the outdoors.

    Who ever said i was giving this to much thought was correct.The ride went exceptionally well and i felt comfortable around her.
    Um...no i would never cheat,never have and yes...i do feel like the "coach".

    She'll no doubt get hit on by other male bikers,especially after reading this thread

    Oh...and we're going on a group ride tuesday.

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    I think most of us are pretty mellow which is what makes mountain biking so great. We don't exclude anyone and happy to help out new people or just talk out on the trail. The guy that stopped to make sure we were okay last Saturday was awesome. Had a great time talking for a few minutes about bikes. Talked to another guy who had a fat bike as well for a few minutes later.

    The OP sounds like was attracted to her (he's not dead) and questioned whether or not it's a good idea when she asked if he'd ride with her. In this case, I'd question it given the attraction he has.

    OP..was she openly flirting with you? Or did you just talk bikes and trails and it was a serious conversation? I'd still invite her to go out on a group ride so she gets to know people. OP never said his marriage was bad, just the length of time.

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    Ahh..didn't see the previous post. Glad you had a good time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bird View Post
    lol a variety of advice and suggestions.thankyou

    Ok...i did ride today and had fun.she is actually a superb rider and not looking for a relationship.She is simular to my wife,career driven,ambitious and loves the outdoors.

    Who ever said i was giving this to much thought was correct.The ride went exceptionally well and i felt comfortable around her.
    Um...no i would never cheat,never have and yes...i do feel like the "coach".

    She'll no doubt get hit on by other male bikers,especially after reading this thread

    Oh...and we're going on a group ride tuesday.
    Why point this out at all:
    "This young lady is an exceedingly attractive lady with a very alluring personality.."
    I what context did you find out that "she is not looking for a relationship"?
    Your post is a little confusing imo.
    Glad you had fun. Sounds like no harm done.

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    Hmmm, let's see.
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    How well did that work out?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bird View Post
    lol a variety of advice and suggestions.thankyou

    Ok...i did ride today and had fun.she is actually a superb rider and not looking for a relationship.She is simular to my wife,career driven,ambitious and loves the outdoors.

    Who ever said i was giving this to much thought was correct.The ride went exceptionally well and i felt comfortable around her.
    Um...no i would never cheat,never have and yes...i do feel like the "coach".

    She'll no doubt get hit on by other male bikers,especially after reading this thread

    Oh...and we're going on a group ride tuesday.
    Exactly as it should be...good for you!

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    lol a variety of advice and suggestions.thankyou

    Ok...i did ride today and had fun.she is actually a superb rider and not looking for a relationship.She is simular to my wife,career driven,ambitious and loves the outdoors.

    Who ever said i was giving this to much thought was correct.The ride went exceptionally well and i felt comfortable around her.
    Um...no i would never cheat,never have and yes...i do feel like the "coach".

    She'll no doubt get hit on by other male bikers,especially after reading this thread

    Oh...and we're going on a group ride tuesday.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bird View Post
    lol a variety of advice and suggestions.thankyou

    Ok...i did ride today and had fun.she is actually a superb rider and not looking for a relationship.She is simular to my wife,career driven,ambitious and loves the outdoors.

    Who ever said i was giving this to much thought was correct.The ride went exceptionally well and i felt comfortable around her.
    Um...no i would never cheat,never have and yes...i do feel like the "coach".

    She'll no doubt get hit on by other male bikers,especially after reading this thread

    Oh...and we're going on a group ride tuesday.
    So did you tell your wife?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fiskare View Post
    This is gonna sound judgmental, but I don't mean it to. In reading the OP and the replies I can only conclude that there are a whole lot of shaky relationships out there. I kinda always figured MTBrs were more like fishermen (and fisherwomen) and less like golfers. To me the mellow vibe of MTBing just doesn't jive with all that crap. My 2 cents.
    Just because some of us are devoted to our spouses and choose to focus our energy solely on them - shaky? I don't think so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by formica View Post
    Just because some of us are devoted to our spouses and choose to focus our energy solely on them - shaky? I don't think so.
    Well, if it makes you feel better to proclaim this to the world then have at it. Personally, I prefer a barbaric yawp from the rooftop.

    Did you not read the part about how I did not intend to be judgmental?

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    Just showed this to my wife. She would only be jealous if the hot check was a better rider than her!

    She also wonders if mtbr.com is turning into "dear Abby". Time to put on your man pants Sally!

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    ....or Dear Abel, as the case may be....and do them man pants include kilts? If so, I'm in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fiskare View Post
    This is gonna sound judgmental, but I don't mean it to. In reading the OP and the replies I can only conclude that there are a whole lot of shaky relationships out there. I kinda always figured MTBrs were more like fishermen (and fisherwomen) and less like golfers. To me the mellow vibe of MTBing just doesn't jive with all that crap. My 2 cents.
    Ask most who have cheated and they will say, "I never intended to cheat. It just happened." Married and hanging out with a woman alone is asking for problems. Especially one you find attractive. If you don't understand that I feel sorry for your wife. Love my wife too much to come within a million miles of hurting her and doing the above is way closer than that. Oh, not to be judgemental.
    Small ring in front makes it easier. Small ring in back makes it harder. That blows my mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lenny7 View Post
    Ask most who have cheated and they will say, "I never intended to cheat. It just happened." Married and hanging out with a woman alone is asking for problems. Especially one you find attractive. If you don't understand that I feel sorry for your wife. Love my wife too much to come within a million miles of hurting her and doing the above is way closer than that. Oh, not to be judgemental.
    And I for yours........

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    Quote Originally Posted by jollybeggar View Post
    Vanity, vanity, all is vanity. Us older guys always fantisize that some young girl would be interested in us. What fools we become.
    Speak for yourself

    Some women look for older guys and some of older guys wind up with younger women.
    I don't look for it, it just seems to happen a lot.
    I would actually prefer a woman in her 30's but often wind up with them in their early 20's
    (I am 39)

    My neighbors brother who is in 70's just got married to a woman in her 30's and no he isn't rich. Oh, and she is hot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fiskare View Post
    Well, if it makes you feel better to proclaim this to the world then have at it. Personally, I prefer a barbaric yawp from the rooftop.

    Did you not read the part about how I did not intend to be judgmental?
    This is gonna sound {insert adjective of choice}but I don't mean it to.

    Yes. Either you are or you aren't, the "I don't mean it to" doesn't get you off the hook.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lenny7 View Post
    Ask most who have cheated and they will say, "I never intended to cheat. It just happened." Married and hanging out with a woman alone is asking for problems. Especially one you find attractive. If you don't understand that I feel sorry for your wife. Love my wife too much to come within a million miles of hurting her and doing the above is way closer than that. Oh, not to be judgemental.
    All that and you started riding in 2007? You are what is wrong with MTBR.

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    A good special woman is hard to find, if you have one, respect her spirit and love what you have.
    Yes everybody likes to flirt including me, but keep it in your pants guys, keep it in your pants...
    But thats just my opinion....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fiskare View Post
    ....or Dear Abel, as the case may be....and do them man pants include kilts? If so, I'm in.
    Aye!

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    Bird,

    It sounds as if you aren't going to have to write a country music song after all.

    It would have been entertaining to us, but maybe not so much for you. Just for the moment, though, you were tempted.

    Good fortune to you.

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    Can I come on your tuesday group ride???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fiskare View Post
    All that and you started riding in 2007? You are what is wrong with MTBR.
    Yeah, guys advising other guys, who ask, not to put themselves into possitions that could hurt their marriage. Yeah that is such an enormous problem here on mtbr.
    Started riding in 2007? What are you talking about? It's really hard to tell but I think you are trying to put me down.
    Small ring in front makes it easier. Small ring in back makes it harder. That blows my mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tone's View Post
    A good special woman is hard to find, if you have one, respect her spirit and love what you have.
    Yes everybody likes to flirt including me, but keep it in your pants guys, keep it in your pants...
    But thats just my opinion....
    Alternatively, you could just do like the Nuge

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tone's View Post
    A good special woman is hard to find, if you have one, respect her spirit and love what you have.
    Yes everybody likes to flirt including me, but keep it in your pants guys, keep it in your pants...
    But thats just my opinion....
    WTF... is this Tone's girlfriend?
    If so, nice to meet you....


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    Quote Originally Posted by SlowerJoe View Post
    WTF... is this Tone's girlfriend?
    If so, nice to meet you....


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    hahahahahahahahahahahahaha I was thinking the same thing!!!
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    How about some music to put this girl in perspective.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SlowerJoe View Post
    WTF... is this Tone's girlfriend?
    If so, nice to meet you....


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    Im just quietly shocked at the depths that some of you will go on here for a laugh.
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    Quote Originally Posted by formica View Post
    [I]Yes. Either you are or you aren't, the "I don't mean it to" doesn't get you off the hook.
    Fair enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tone's View Post
    A good special woman is hard to find, if you have one, respect her spirit and love what you have.
    Yes everybody likes to flirt including me, but keep it in your pants guys, keep it in your pants...
    But thats just my opinion....
    That is exactly right. If the only thing stopping a person from doing the wrong thing is the lack of temptation then the problem is not the temptation. Besides, the beautiful peeps need MTBing as much as the rest of us, and I for one will not discriminate against the beautiful people. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who knows which head is in charge.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shwaa View Post
    Haha! Yea, and then upload it immediately here.
    yeah, then upload it to Facebook as well.

    Dude, if you are happily married for 27 years - you should know exactly what to do.

    It ain't worth your marriage, if it is not obvious enough, but I am sure you know that.

    What would I do? Invite her to a group ride and let her find someone that is compatible - hopefully... It wouldn't be me, for sure.

    Would you let your wife go riding with some young stud?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany1 View Post

    I couldn't ride alone with another guy even if we'd been friends for years.
    why?

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    its not all about sex you know
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    What?

    since when?

    okay, a little bit of money and power too, but c'mon son...

    i must say Joe's scenario makes more and more sense...


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    Quote Originally Posted by kjlued View Post
    My neighbors brother who is in 70's just got married to a woman in her 30's and no he isn't rich. Oh, and she is hot.
    something is just NOT right here... where do you live? maybe it is time to move there....


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    Man...the same thing happened to me on my ride today. The only problem is it was a man name Steven.

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    It really is a self control thing. So what if she's hot and fun and all that? If you love and repsect your wife and the commitment you made there shouldn't be a second thought. I have platonic female friends and I hang out with them and my wife doesn't care. One even had very non-platonic feelings for me years ago but I was not interseted at the time. My wife still trusts me with her alone and her husband trusts her with me. We are adults committed to our spouses.

    My wife does not care if I ride with women but my wife also rides and usually only rides with me. She does not feel comfortable riding by herself and that is fine. She has recently started to dance. She really wants me to do it with her but I am not a big fan. I went once and it was kinda meh. She gets hit on a lot there. I don't care for a couple of the guys there but I trust my wife.

    The OP brought to mind a situation years ago that pissed me off. I once visited a friend of mine from high school and crashed on his couch for the night. He worked nights and so his wife was there alone with me. I had known her for a few years so I wasn't a stranger or anything.

    Still, she locked the bedroom door in case I was tempted late at night or some dumb $hit. Are you kidding me? First, a bedroom door lock is nothing and second, really? I was quite insulted.

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    As long as you don't put your penis inside her you're good.


    Seriously though, the idea that you shouldn't hang out with a woman because she's a woman is bizarre and ridiculous to me. If you think you might do something you'll regret then stay away from the situation for sure, but if you would never do anything that infringes on your marriage then what's there to argue?
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    Quote Originally Posted by LostBoyScout View Post
    As long as you don't put your penis inside her you're good.
    Sounds like the Bill Clinton defense LOL



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    Situations like this are the reason why I can never get married.

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    You should definitely go riding with her. She might not feel safe in the woods by herself, so if that's the case you are doing a fellow mountain biker a solid. Worst case scenario you get to ride with her and link her up with some other folks who are like minded or the same skill set. Bonus for you in that you get a little eye candy.

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    Not cheating in marriage is simple, DON'T EVER PUT YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION"....


    Quote Originally Posted by JoePAz View Post
    It does not work like that. Not cheating is not cheating. It takes self control on the one hand and respect and love for your wife on the other hand. What if this happens at work not on the Mtn bike trail. Do you refuse to work with an attractive co worker? No have some self control. Men (and women also) cheat either because they want to or have no self control.
    No. Riding alone with someone in the woods is nothing like working in an office full of people. Bailey44 may be oversimplifying it, but so are you. Then again, you are sort of on the same page with him. Not putting yourself in a questionable situation is an example of showing self control. If you think there is a chance of something happening, self control tells you not to do it. Self control is not just stopping infidelity on the verge of it happening.

    To the OP, I agree with others that I would either do a group ride and hopefully hook her up with another girl or single dude, or if that's not possible, just politely turn her down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by osokolo View Post
    yeah, then upload it to Facebook as well.

    Dude, if you are happily married for 27 years - you should know exactly what to do.

    It ain't worth your marriage, if it is not obvious enough, but I am sure you know that.

    What would I do? Invite her to a group ride and let her find someone that is compatible - hopefully... It wouldn't be me, for sure.

    Would you let your wife go riding with some young stud?
    LOL, ''what would i do? invite her on a GROUP RIDE''

    Osokolo, im onto you, you filthy minded Canadian........
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    Personally, I think you should email Bill Clinton and get his take!
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    Ok,

    Anyway, i come across this at work a lot. She sees enough in you to trust you to see past her looks and become a mentor/friend. Having her as a "friend" might even have you seeing your relationship with your wife in a different brighter way.

    PS: oh, yeah POIDH....

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    Quote Originally Posted by JoePAz View Post
    Men (and women also) cheat either because they want to or have no self control.
    ...which boils down to "men and women cheat because they want to"

    If you didn't want to, it would be rape.
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    I have come across solo women looking for help on the trail a couple of time. Both times I helped them, showed them the trails to get home, and gave them the number of a chicky I know who rides a lot.

    There is no amount of strange that is worth the heartache and headache. Just seems like pure problems to me.

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