What does your wife say?

Printable View

  • 01-24-2013
    BigTex91
    My wife realizes she's at least partly to blame for my bike obsession, and probably regrets it to some degree. But she's happy about it for many reasons.

    I hadn't owned a bike of any kind since college, about 15 years before. When our son was 1, my wife bought a bike (an Electra Townie) and a trailer to carry him in. I figured I better buy one too. I bought a Giant Sedona hybrid (and thought at the time that $400 was a lot for a bicycle) so we could ride around the 'hood together. Then I started riding for fitness, shed a lot of weight, tried the local trails, and an obsession was born.

    She's never going to mountain bike with me. But she has her own obsession: tennis. Tennis racquets don't cost as much as bikes do, but country club and tennis club memberships aren't cheap (to be fair, I use the CC membership too, for the fitness center, including spin classes, and, on rare occasions, a little tennis myself). Every time I come home with a new jersey, shorts or shoes and she gives me that sideways glance, I can point to the closet full of tennis apparel. Money isn't an issue - we both earn a decent living and contribute equally to household and family expenses.

    The only thing she doesn't like about me biking is the possibility of getting hurt (and I did last summer, screwing up my shoulder pretty good). But she likes my improved fitness and that I'm having fun with new friends.

    Aside from the original Giant, I have since added two mountain bikes to the quiver and am about to pull the trigger on a friend's used road bike - that's her biggest issue, is that bikes take a lot of room in the garage. Time to get creative with the storage.
  • 01-24-2013
    MotownDanny
    Um, not married, but I am under the thumb of some female relatives -- ok, an older sister who lives next door to me, and my mother, who now lives with me due to advanced age and health issues (88, congestive heart failure).

    Needless to say, at 47, a grown man as I keep telling them, it's my money and my life. Alas, they don't think so, are a little resentful of the time I put in (say roughly 15 to 20 hours a week) as well as the $$$.

    I keep telling them they should be happy that I'm not out drinking it up at the bar or picking up call girls and drugs. That shuts them up for a little while, LOL.

    Of course, I'm up the three bikes now, and I plan a fourth in the spring. That should go over really well!
  • 01-24-2013
    Hoban
    My wife is used to my offroading (Jeep) and diesel truck habits, so my bike hobby pales in comparison. I think she's happy it's nothing bigger. :D
  • 01-24-2013
    balance_fit
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by strow View Post
    "Grab your gear and let's load the mtb tandem."

    I'm hoping to hear " What about that FS, 29'r, Ventana tandem?"

    She's perfect, a diamond in the rough...
  • 01-27-2013
    AnalogKid
    When I met my wife, she had just ordered a 2001 GT Timberline. The bike sat in our basement for years while we played with motorcycles. I rode the thing more than she did, but a medium framed bike just didn't cut it for someone standing 6'4".

    Fast forward to 2011: I snag a Camber Elite 29er and we start riding trails. A pair of Rockhoppers soon followed. Of course, hers was several hundred dollars cheaper than mine because it was an in-stock closeout and my 'hopper was special order.

    We're now at 7 bikes. She'll not be getting a snow bike because cold air bothers her but if it's 50 degrees or above she's ready to go. Some of the happiest memories I have revolve around our rides together, especially at night.

    It's healthy, fun and a good way to spend time together. What's not to like?
  • 01-30-2013
    balance_fit
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Flat Again??? View Post

    The other thing is, my wife rides too, so I have to budget for two of everything. Two fatbikes, this year.

    We both ride too. And the budget for keeping two bikes in pristine condition can creep up quickly !
    I've been eyeing the fatties too. Maybe i'll rent one on our next mtb trip. Let's see what she says about it ... LOL
  • 01-30-2013
    cobi
    Wife: "You're looking at more bike stuff?"

    Me: "you sound like my ex-wife"

    Wife: "you never told me you were married before!"

    Me: "I wasn't!"
  • 01-30-2013
    Gregon2wheels
    Just upgraded this month. We talked about it a little while, and I finally asked, aren't you upset about me wanting to spend this much money on a bike?

    She said, it's replacing a 17 year old bike, so I'm not worried about you getting your money out of it.

    :thumbsup:

    Seriously, I thought there would be a finances discussion. Nope.
  • 01-31-2013
    twowheelfunman
    My wife loves road and mtb. She is not fast and she's very directionally challenged. This used to cause problems until I bought her a Garmin so she can find her way back to the car! As long as we start together and agree on when to get back to the car it's all good.

    She has one more bike than I do!
  • 01-31-2013
    hydrogeek
    When I was married, my bike obsession caused issues. Now I have a GF who is into all aspects of cycling. She loves that I ride a lot and she wants to go with. She has the bug and is scheduling trips as I write this :-) Whenever I buy something new she wants to know all about it. She thinks the technology is cool. My girl ROCKS! I think you either have to find someone that is going to be fine with not participating and giving you the space to do what you want or find someone that wants to do it with you.
  • 01-31-2013
    BCTJ
    My wife doesn't want me to ride. She says that Arizona is too dangerous for mountain biking and that she doesn't want to end up a widow with three young kids.
  • 01-31-2013
    wv_bob
    > What does your wife say?

    I'm not sure how to spell it, but it sounds like Charlie Brown's teacher talking.
  • 01-31-2013
    seat_boy
    One of my wife's friend's husbands is into cars. She (the friend) can't park in their garage because his special cars (M3, track Mustang) are in there.

    So, my wife doesn't mind my bikes at all. Sometimes, she even encourages me to get a new one.
  • 01-31-2013
    Mountain Cycle Shawn
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JAMarco1 View Post
    wife

    Mistake #1

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JAMarco1 View Post
    My wife loves to shop and everytime she goes I am right there with her I am pretty much with my wife 24/7 we even work together. but other than that she really doesn't have many hobbies. She scrapbooks every six months...

    Mistake #2

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JAMarco1 View Post
    I have tried and tried to get her out on the trail with me but, she's just not interested.

    Mistake #3

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JAMarco1 View Post
    get you ass chewed?

    Mistake #4

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JAMarco1 View Post
    I'm not trying to have an Ex-wife.

    Mistake #5

    Didn't you learn anything from Tom Leykis?
  • 01-31-2013
    sfb12
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Mountain Cycle Shawn View Post
    Mistake #1


    Mistake #2



    Mistake #3



    Mistake #4



    Mistake #5

    Didn't you learn anything from Tom Leykis?




    Man that worked out perfectly in order. I can say while just getting into this i'm glad i'm not married or i'd be hearing a lot of complaining.
  • 02-01-2013
    CGrr
    I appreciate that my wife does not really ride; I just don't want to have to wait for her and have her tagging along on my rides; that's my time. She has a bike and sometimes we'll just spin around town and bird-watch, her hobby.
    As far as spending on my bikes?
    She never really says anything and has encouraged me to buy a new road bike, says she was worried about me riding with the rag-bike that I had. I usually feel guilty about spending too much money anyhow, comes from being raised by frugal parents, so I don't.
    She jokes that mtber's don't really ride anyhow, we just stand around at the trail-head checking ourselves out in our tights and slapping each others asses!
  • 02-01-2013
    P.Stefanelli
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by CGrr View Post
    I usually feel guilty about spending too much money anyhow, comes from being raised by frugal parents, so I don't.

    I have the same "problem" or "blessing".. either one..
  • 02-01-2013
    Giant Chachi
    I love my wife!
    I feel bad for you guys that get harassed for your bike obsessions and riding times, etc. For me, as long I donít go overboard in my spending, or take the entire weekend, every weekend to go ride, I am good to go.

    In fact, my ride was in the shop this week for a big winter overhaul. It was gone for about 10 days while my Fox shock was sent in, so I was jonesing without it for sure. I went and picked it up after work the other night, and came home to put in the garage, and there was a typed sign hanging just above where my bike sits:



    How cool is that!? My ride gets a welcome home sign from the wifey after being in the shop! Now that is love and support for my passion right there!

    Tip: If any of you would like to show this post to your wives as motivation, feel free to do so. :thumbsup:
  • 02-01-2013
    Tyler21
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by sjhiker View Post
    My gf saw how much fun I was having riding my bike and how passionate I was at it decided she wanted to get a bike so we could do it together. So I helped her pick out a Specialized Myka (in purple) made sure it was fitted for her.

    She rode it around the neighborhood twice and now it collects dust in the garage.

    Ditto. We put a lot of effort into getting her bike (which is a very nice 2013 Trek Marlin). She was so excited about it and made it out to be like she would come with me on every ride she could. She used it twice and sure enough it's a dust collector. I'm still hoping to get her more into it, but if not I guess I'll have a gem of a bike to sell in 10+ years.
  • 02-01-2013
    Dion
    25 years ago, I was born. No, not my birth from my mother, but born through BMX. Bike riding is my identity - and it's who my wife married. She didn't marry a dude who all-of-a-sudden decided to pick up bike riding... I've always been a rider (with just some stupid long breaks in-between). She knows it what defines me, and understands how it's an integral part of my life. To me, riding is like breathing. So... my wife doesn't mind when I spend money on bike stuff. I make most of the money in the home and pay all the house bills.

    We also have separate checking accounts, so she manages her money and I manage my money. She takes care of her bills and groceries, and I do the rest.

    The only time she uses riding "against" me is if we're in an argument, and she uses some sort of passive-aggressive statement to make herself sound like a victim in a situation. Like, if I'm complaining about my work (I work on commission) and tell her to stop nagging me since I pay all the house bills. She comes up with something to the effect of, "Well, I'M JUST GOING TO HAVE TO GET 2 OR 3 MORE JOBS SO YOU CAN GO RIDE YOUR BIKE WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND I WILL JUST BE A SLAVE TO WORK! NOW YOU WOULDN'T HAVE TO WORK SO MUCH!" :madmax:

    When typed out, that response sounds awesome, but it's from a passive aggressive standpoint and it's annoying as hell.
  • 02-01-2013
    tim_from_PA
    It's cold and wet here now, and my wife said: "I can't wait until spring so we can ride bikes together". That totally made my day. She isn't into it much, but she wants to be since I ride so much. I hope this year she really gets into it.
  • 02-01-2013
    random walk
    She doesn't have to say anything. The silence is deafening.
  • 02-01-2013
    huffster
    I really can't hear what she says when she is at home and I am in the woods.

    Truly, she is mostly supportive as she knows it is a passion of mine. She's not into riding. I've tried. We hike together. Sometimes she throws it in my face during some argument or another. We've been married 23 years. We fight sometimes. It passes.
  • 02-05-2013
    Moonshine Willie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Rod View Post
    My girlfriend tells me to go out with the guys, but we haven't been dating long. She tells me that she can just pick up some more hours at work while I'm out. I've had people in the past get upset that I would be away riding my bikes or playing basketball. That didn't work out well.

    Sounds like she got a backdoor friend....
  • 02-05-2013
    Moonshine Willie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DavidNeiles View Post
    My wife is a major *****, she pisses me off about riding all the time. I am a mechanic and she knew that. I swear, she is lazy and pissed my off. I don't think we need no stinking wifes. F them, they take our money and try to tell us what to do, wtf

    Ummm, counseling perhaps...?
  • 02-05-2013
    Moonshine Willie
    Good God man! If I were in your situation, I'd be biking, too! :lol:

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by MotownDanny View Post
    Um, not married, but I am under the thumb of some female relatives -- ok, an older sister who lives next door to me, and my mother, who now lives with me due to advanced age and health issues (88, congestive heart failure).

    Needless to say, at 47, a grown man as I keep telling them, it's my money and my life. Alas, they don't think so, are a little resentful of the time I put in (say roughly 15 to 20 hours a week) as well as the $$$.

    I keep telling them they should be happy that I'm not out drinking it up at the bar or picking up call girls and drugs. That shuts them up for a little while, LOL.

    Of course, I'm up the three bikes now, and I plan a fourth in the spring. That should go over really well!

  • 02-07-2013
    TX_Shifter
    My wife does not care about bikes but respects and understand that I like riding and working on them.

    Its all about balance!!
  • 06-05-2013
    SeadawgVB
    My Wife's all about the losing weight thing, (I'm only 20lbs over) but that still wont justify more than $400 initial purchase, so I bought the most frame I could find and the upgrade will come in slowly a bit or two at a time, under the radar.
  • 06-05-2013
    ghglenn
    My wife is a member of a 140 ladies only mtb club that rides twice a week. She loves the sport and I can't imagine it any other way. For those that have significant others that aren't supportive of your riding, run far far away.
  • 06-05-2013
    MSU Alum
    I was watching TV at the beginning of last summer when my wife walked into the room and said, "hey, you're due for a new bike!" (She's the financial brains of the outfit and budgets for everything). 3 weeks later, I was the proud owner of a Pivot 5.7 carbon. I suppose I'll keep her!
  • 06-05-2013
    phoenixnr
    Nice. Can you clone her? My wife is very supportive of my biking and less supportive of my bike spending.

    Sent from my skz_tenderloin using Tapatalk HD
  • 06-05-2013
    June Bug
    I AM the wife, and I say, "Go Ride!"

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by SeadawgVB View Post
    My Wife's all about the losing weight thing, (I'm only 20lbs over) but that still wont justify more than $400 initial purchase, so I bought the most frame I could find and the upgrade will come in slowly a bit or two at a time, under the radar.

    Do like Mr. June Bug does when he is trying to be surreptitious about bike related purchases and have UPS deliver the upgrades to your office.;)
  • 06-05-2013
    Bernina
    What my husband's wife says: (after he bought her an awesome FS so that she could keep up with him on the technical stuff)

    She said: Your 17 year old hard tail makes your body hurt. You should get a FS. They're fun.

    He said: No, I'm old school. FS would be too bouncy on the chunky stuff and sap my power on climbs.

    She said: You're wrong but let's at least get you a professional fit on your old bike so that you're more comfortable.

    He said: Alright, if it makes you happy.

    She said: (during the fit) Honey, look at this awesome Stumpjumper with a brain. It's your size.

    Fitter said: Let me set it up for you. You can ride it around the block to see if it fits, then take it to the trail for a test ride.

    She said: Yeah, honey. Give it a try.

    He said: Alright, if it makes you happy.

    He said: (after riding around the block) It's fun! I'll take it!

    She said: Shouldn't you test it on some chunky stuff to see if it's too bouncy?

    He said: No, I rode off the curb and it was fun! I'll take it!

    She said: Do you want to ride it up a hill to see if it saps your power?

    He said: No, I rode up the curb and it was fun! I'll take it!

    She said: Alright, if it makes you happy. (And they both rode happily ever after.)
  • 06-05-2013
    big_slacker
    Recent conversation:

    Me-"I just got my bonus, I'm gonna buy a bike."

    Her-"Another one??"

    Me-"The one I have right now is too heavy and I don't jump off stuff much anymore."

    Her-"Are you gonna sell the old one, because you've got four bikes in there already."

    Her-"And buy a wrangler so you'll stop talking about cars."
  • 06-06-2013
    brigadier
    a few years ago my wife was not really interested by bicycle except for having leisure rides on sunny days.

    She respects my passion and really is open-minded about that. She knows, accepts and appreciates I have a passion and do a lot of sport.

    One year ago, I offered her a trekking bike and now she likes to have longer road rides with me. She likes it so much that this year she bought an electra beach cruiser to go at work by bicycle. And in September I plan to offer her a Planet X Pro Carbon with a flatbar. She dreams about a pink carbon bicycle under 8 kgs.

    I never forced her to ride with me, but she fastly saw that this is a great way to share something, enjoy having outdoor activities and do some sport together.
  • 06-06-2013
    MSU Alum
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by phoenixnr View Post
    Nice. Can you clone her? My wife is very supportive of my biking and less supportive of my bike spending.

    Sent from my skz_tenderloin using Tapatalk HD

    How come no one ever asks if I can be cloned?
  • 06-06-2013
    mbco1975
    RE: What does your wife say?
    Its not so much the money, or time spent riding, but the time spent tinkering with my bike trying to fix it.

    She always tells me to take it into the shop as I don't know what I'm doing and will need to take it in to get fixed after I break it anyway. Sad to say, most of the time she's correct, but sometimes I triumph and my tinkering actually pays off :)
    Sent from my HTC6990LVW using Board Express
  • 06-07-2013
    Lopaka
    Mostly my wife says, "Don't touch me".
  • 06-08-2013
    fahza29er
    Not a damn thing, been divorced now 12 years and the happiest 12 years in a long time.
    My current GF loves to MTB and other things , wink wink :)
  • 06-08-2013
    thegweed
    My wife would have a problem with me spending money on new bikes all the time, but i wouldn't do it anyway...i have 2 decent bikes and i'd rather pay my mortgage early. However, she does not have a problem with me going riding, she's happy i have something i love doing and it's healthy. It's also cool that she's not into mountain biking, we don't have to do everything together.
  • 06-29-2013
    Albeare Rowley
    Just bought a Giant Talon 0 2013 model on sale. GF was there watching, with the price of the bike $990 plus, lock, bike tool kit, seat bag, lights, spare tube, pump etc Her response was didn't know you were so flush and do not ever "chat" me about my spending again :-)
    So it is all good ;-)