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    How much weight does a HandShake have?

    Hello all,it's been a while. I ask this question because I thought it would
    help with the Topic I will ask you all. That is,have you ever met someone
    you Love,{you know what I mean.}in my case, Man Lust and just been blown away with a Bad Handshake?

    I had this happen to me in 2006. In Las Vegas at the trade show. I just could not believe that the Man who has the best bike skills in the world
    could have this handshake? I was speechless? Anyway, I thought this
    was a good question. Or at least, it's important to me what you have
    to share. Peace.

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    I don't think I let it effect my thoughts on a guy as a person, but I definitely notice a weak handshake. On the other hand, I've shaken hands with guys who go way too far the other way and it just seem silly.

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    I think people who consciously try to crush your hand are revealing their insecurities.
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    Yeah,I dont need a bone crusher,but I am Alway's ready for it. I'm looking for
    that ultimate let down? That's what I had. I guess it's me. You alway's look a
    Man in his Eyes and shake a firm grip. Peace.

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    How much weight does a HandShake have?

    The Handshake sets the tone when two strangers meet. Too little or too much is awkward. The exact amount of pressure is a necessary skill to help make that first impression. I can recall people who have bad handshakes. It matters.

    But what's worse is when someone try's to do a left handed shake. I've encountered this 3 times in my life.
    -first guy had a broken right arm, so he gets a pass
    -second was a limp wristed very awkward handshake... Almost like he had never even shook someone's hand before. I don't think it was intentional, still it was weird.
    -third was very recently, a father of a player on my kids baseball team. Big, strong tough guy offered up his left hand... I was dumbfounded! Lol
    I hope you have a big trunk... cause I'm gonna put my bike in it!

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    3.2 Oz silly.

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    I weak handshake means he is bad in bed.

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    The worst is when you reach for a handshake and they grab your fingers. I make them do it again.
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    Maybe tell the guy and he can rename his bike brand "Bad Handshake."
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    What worse, someone who grabs in tight and early, getting your fingers and forcing you to shake really weak.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mookie View Post
    I think people who consciously try to crush your hand are revealing their insecurities.
    A few years ago i was training a new guy at work. His handshake was the finger crusher. I got sick of it and called him on it! He was flabbergasted. He had adopted the super firm finger handshake on the advice of his drill sgt when he was 18 and had not realized it was offensive at all. The man was in his 30s and had been doing it for his entire adult life in ignorance. I literally coached him on how to let thumbs lock first so he did not crush fingers and how to give a FIRM but not crushing handshake. He was receptive and appreciative.

    That experience led me to believe that most weird handshakes are due to ignorance. If this describes one of your friends, coach them up!

    Speaking of weird handshakes, i was the victim of a strange new handshake several months ago while conducting an interview. I held my hand out, the man reached out and clasped my hand. He then pulled me towards him, yanking me off my footing and into a full personal bubble violation. I have no idea wtf he was going for with that, but i was completely uninterested in his answers to our panel's questions and my vote not to hire was based solely off that abortion of a handshake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRingGrinder View Post

    I held my hand out, the man reached out and clasped my hand. He then pulled me towards him, yanking me off my footing and into a full personal bubble violation. I have no idea wtf he was going for with that, but i was completely uninterested in his answers to our panel's questions and my vote not to hire was based solely off that abortion of a handshake.
    its like a power move to establish dominance, not good for starting an interview

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    Made me think of this clip:

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    I appreciate a good firm handshake, but can understand a "less firm" grip. Not every guy is a manly man, and that's OK.

    That being said, I once had the chance to shake hands with one of my boyhood idols. It was very soft, weak, and clammy. Ruined him for me to this day.
    Hold my beer and watch this!

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    Firm (not crushing) handshake with both hands extended the same distance, two pumps and let go. Never with gloves on, never with both hands.
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    How much weight does a HandShake have?

    It can change the outcome of the entire world-


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    I go with the fist bump, followed by the bro slap to avoid sending or receiving any confusing signals.

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    How much weight does a HandShake have?

    Good idea for a topic.
    I operate a rock drill which is a VERY dirty , greasy, oily job.
    What I can't stand is when a manager or office stooge comes to a job site and won't shake my hand. If it's dripping in oil I understand but they usually don't even look.
    The president of my company started out doing what I do 40 years ago. That man will shake my hand if it's covered in copper grease.
    To me it's a sign of respect and mutual understanding.
    Coincidentally I got to shake Tom Brady's hand after a New England Patriots game and he limp wristed me. Lol I almost expected it though.


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    Quote Originally Posted by BigFitz View Post

    The president of my company started out doing what I do 40 years ago. That man will shake my hand if it's covered in copper grease. ..... .
    That speaks for some qualities as to why he is the president of the company.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRingGrinder View Post
    A few years ago i was training a new guy at work. His handshake was the finger crusher. I got sick of it and called him on it! He was flabbergasted. He had adopted the super firm finger handshake on the advice of his drill sgt when he was 18 and had not realized it was offensive at all. The man was in his 30s and had been doing it for his entire adult life in ignorance. I literally coached him on how to let thumbs lock first so he did not crush fingers and how to give a FIRM but not crushing handshake. He was receptive and appreciative.

    That experience led me to believe that most weird handshakes are due to ignorance. If this describes one of your friends, coach them up!
    Never thought of that, that must account for some of the bad handshakes. I've definitely given several people the "easy there big boy" comment after a good crushing. I'm pretty sure that most of the extreme handcrushers I've come across know what they're doing though, they just want to exert their dominance. Which given the personalities of the folks I'm referring to, this is their only chance with me.

    Speaking of weird handshakes, i was the victim of a strange new handshake several months ago while conducting an interview. I held my hand out, the man reached out and clasped my hand. He then pulled me towards him, yanking me off my footing and into a full personal bubble violation. I have no idea wtf he was going for with that, but i was completely uninterested in his answers to our panel's questions and my vote not to hire was based solely off that abortion of a handshake.
    Lol, this is wrong on multiple levels. Gotta have better social skills than that. I bet he's a close talker to boot.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MTK View Post
    You alway's look a
    Man in his Eyes and shake a firm grip. Peace.
    that is the bottom line - goes for shaking a woman's hand too though

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigFitz View Post
    Good idea for a topic.
    I operate a rock drill which is a VERY dirty , greasy, oily job.
    What I can't stand is when a manager or office stooge comes to a job site and won't shake my hand. If it's dripping in oil I understand but they usually don't even look.
    The president of my company started out doing what I do 40 years ago. That man will shake my hand if it's covered in copper grease.
    To me it's a sign of respect and mutual understanding.
    Coincidentally I got to shake Tom Brady's hand after a New England Patriots game and he limp wristed me. Lol I almost expected it though.


    History is written by those who have hanged heroes.
    Really no excuse for passing on a handshake. I won't shake a hand covered with anything harmful (solvents and such) but otherwise I figure it's the minimum expectation for two people meeting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jeffw-13 View Post
    The worst is when you reach for a handshake and they grab your fingers. I make them do it again.
    Quote Originally Posted by terrasmak
    What worse, someone who grabs in tight and early, getting your fingers and forcing you to shake really weak.
    +1 I hate that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MTK View Post
    You alway's look a Man in his Eyes and shake a firm grip. Peace.
    followed up by a playful slap on the arse
    always mad and usually drunk......

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    You guys crack me up. I brought this up thinking of shaking hands with Bike people
    in mind. Now if Greg Lemond were to shake my hand in such a manner? Oh,the Drama.

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    I'm a chef...If I shake hands with someone at work I have to go wash my hands before I can do anything else. One guy said it reminded him of that show "Monk".

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    Re: How much weight does a HandShake have?

    Quote Originally Posted by abeckstead View Post
    The Handshake sets the tone when two strangers meet. Too little or too much is awkward. The exact amount of pressure is a necessary skill to help make that first impression. I can recall people who have bad handshakes. It matters.

    But what's worse is when someone try's to do a left handed shake. I've encountered this 3 times in my life.
    -first guy had a broken right arm, so he gets a pass
    -second was a limp wristed very awkward handshake... Almost like he had never even shook someone's hand before. I don't think it was intentional, still it was weird.
    -third was very recently, a father of a player on my kids baseball team. Big, strong tough guy offered up his left hand... I was dumbfounded! Lol
    I laughed when I read this. I was a boy scout as a kid (made eagle even) and scouts always shake with their left because it is closer to your heart and thus more sincere. I went for my first teaching job interview and shook with my left. The principal looked confused so I explained it... Long story short I got the job.
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    "And after a while, you can work on points for style.
    Like the club tie, and the firm handshake,
    A certain look in the eye and an easy smile.
    You have to be trusted by the people that you lie to,
    So that when they turn their backs on you,
    You'll get the chance to put the knife in."

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    I don't ever know if I'm supposed to shake hands with women and how it's to be done.

    For this reason I never leave the house unless I have to. If I do leave the house, I hang my head and never make eye contact.

    Seems reasonable.

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    As a recruiter by trade, I can tell you that a bad handshake can kill your job prospects. Not with me, necessarily (it bugs me but I won't s-can a candidate for that alone), but the hiring managers pick on it all the time and place a remarkable weight on it.

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    "Proper" etiquette for shaking a woman's hand is to allow her to offer first and to let her determine firmness and duration. If she doesn't then keep your hands to yourself.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jeff View Post
    "Proper" etiquette for shaking a woman's hand is to allow her to offer first and to let her determine firmness and duration. If she doesn't then keep your hands to yourself.
    I know this, but in real life it just doesn't seem to work out. My job requires that I regularly meet with families. So... I extend my hand to greet the husband, then... um, uh, "Hi there wife of man I just shook hands with, should I extend my hand to you as well..."

    Anyway, once I extend my hand to introduce myself to one person in the group, I continue to offer my hand to everyone. Most folks seem to expect it and if you just stand there without offering a handshake, the body language that I read from folks says that I created a more awkward situation by not extending my hand. Maybe this would be different in less official settings. If I'm just being introduced to a woman, then I don't extend my hand.

    Wow, this is like therapy.

    Sorry for the hijack.

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    BigRing,was this Man from the Middle East? Where did he come from?

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    Re: How much weight does a HandShake have?

    Quote Originally Posted by MTK View Post
    BigRing,was this Man from the Middle East? Where did he come from?

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    Didn't even think about this... Right hand is the toilet hand.
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    Left hand is the toilet hand.
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    I got tell ya,right now I am listening to shekky's Pink Floyd Song. It happens's to
    be one of my all time favorites. I'm typing and listening at the same time. It's
    wonderful. Dont do that much. I re-read the thread to make sure I was up to date.
    When I was 15,I was in Saudi Arabia for my last visit ever. I grew up there until the
    age of 11. Airline Brat. You cannot get into the KingDom unless you have Direct Family
    or a Work Visa. Period. So I knew it was last call. I was all over this whole album. I can
    smell the air when I hear this song. So many memories. There was 3 Arabs that I partied
    with. One was a Prince,one was a Arab Champion Boxxer,and the last was a skinny Arab.
    I'll never forget the Prince had a Whip,he was serious with this thing. The Boxxer was
    alll buffed and Perfect. He had an afro,ripped to the Gills. They would get Drunk and

    just thrash the place. The Prince mind you, came in at over 300 Pounds. He would pull that whip out and Snap at the Boxxer? The Pince had a younger Brother who was a Slave. He cooked 3 meals a night,every night. I was there from 12 at night till 9am everyday for 2 mounths. I am boring you now. Back to my point.

    bigcat,I thought that mabye he was an Arab. They are very Loving people with there
    greeting. If one is not use to it,then that would explain. Peace.

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