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    What do your kids think..

    of your commuting.
    I work about 6 miles from where I live and the kids go to school on my route.
    My 14 yr old daughter has recently begun to intensely dislike everything about me, but what really gets her goat is the fact that her friends see me on my bike.
    Apparently I look like a "hobo,"
    Ouch.
    My 16 yr old son still thinks its cool when I ride up to his school once in a while.

    Anyone have similar experiences?

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    I can see a 14 year old thinking that a guy is always riding a bike because he can't afford a car. To her and her friends you probably seem like the main character in "The 40 Year Old Virgin". Unfortunately, I can't offer you any real advice. Try talking to her about it, but I'm sure that you've already tried.

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    My kids are younger (7 and 9), and they think bike commuting is normal behaviour. I ride to school with them as often as I can, which all of us enjoy very much. I wouldn't be suprised if they don't want anything to do with me while they are in their teens, but my hope is that biking will be something they enjoy for the rest of their lives.

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    Oh man, the 40 year old virgin thing is almost enough to have me swear off commuting! Now thats all i will think of. LOL

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    A few weeks ago I was on my 30 mile commute home when I crossed paths with my 21 year old daughter commuting 7 miles to her home from soccer practice. We chatted briefly at the intersection and went our separate ways. We both enjoyed the nice surprise and I couldn't be more proud.

    elvez, "Look like a hobo"?....wear your helmet!
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    Quote Originally Posted by elvez
    of your commuting.
    I work about 6 miles from where I live and the kids go to school on my route.
    My 14 yr old daughter has recently begun to intensely dislike everything about me, but what really gets her goat is the fact that her friends see me on my bike.
    Apparently I look like a "hobo,"
    Ouch.
    My 16 yr old son still thinks its cool when I ride up to his school once in a while.

    Anyone have similar experiences?
    Thank goodness my daughter is still 10.

    I ride to work (it's only a mile) and sometimes my wife and daughter will meet me at work or halfway home on their bikes and escort me home.

    Just look for a guy with a really big beer gut and huge ass out with his family and remind them that if not for the bike you might look like that. (That's what I do.)
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    It's fun to be a dork.

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    It's just a teenager thing, she'll get over it.
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    Since I'm the kid commuting, the parents are worried. It's a incredibly short commute (bout a mile to the train station) It's fun passing kids from my school on my bike.

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    My two boys (16 and 18) think I am slightly nuts. Especially when I come home in the rain. But, I like the example I am setting by getting off my butt and being active (which is my main motivation for commuting).

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    My son is 7 so I guess doesn't know any better, but he doesn't seem to mind me pulling up to school in lycra with him in jeans etc. on his bike. Maybe it's because he's always been use to me commuting, but teen angst awaits.
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    Aren't you a little old to care what 14 yo girls think about you?

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    Not when its my daughter. I would like to save some small piece of the stature I had with her just a few short years ago.
    But, its looking very unlikely.

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    Sounds like it's time to treat yourself to some new gear. Make yourself look more like Lance Armstrong than a homeless guy. Of course, a friend of mine who is a long time avid cyclist and by far the most consistent commuter I know (16 mi/day...pretty much every day) says his teenage daughters cringe in horror when he wears spandex. LOL!!

    Meh...it may be a lost cause...but only while she's in her "I know everything" stage. That will pass...eventually. I suspect that your cycling is just the most convenient thing she can use to knock you...if you stop that...she will simply find something else to dislike about you. It is the way of adolescence. Bottom line, if you cave to her will on something as minor as image...you have started down a slippery slope. Stick to your guns and be yourself. She will at least have some level of respect for the fact that you don't give in easily.

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    Girl's at that age are still halfway between the hating boys and liking boys phase and it is confusing for them. Being the biggest male figure in her life it is easy for her to target her confusion and frustration at you. It isn't anything you did, and there isn't really anything to do but wait for her to get over it. She'll come around, just give her time. Teenagers can be maddening to deal with, but it's easy for us to forget that we were all one once (those of us that aren't still). If I were you, I'd find any excuse to get out there and be seen even more by her friends just to get her goat (but that's just me being a snot). Eventually she'll get worked up to the point where she'll realize how ridiculous she's being. Hang in there pops!
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    Lycra? Spandex? I am cringing just reading about what you guys are wearing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by el rey de rock y roll
    of your commuting.
    I work about 6 miles from where I live and the kids go to school on my route.
    My ride is ~7 miles each way w/ detours to drop off/pick up my 7 and 4 yr olds. Usually I have been dropping the 7 yr old and retrieving both of them (my wife rides the 4 yr old down the hill in the am and I bring her back up in the pm). My 7 yr old totally digs it, he is in grade school and they all just like riding bikes. 4 yr old likes to ride w/ mom but not w/ me, like, well, everything else in her life right now.

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    at that age she's trying to distance herself and assert her individuality... nothing you do is going to be cool for about 6 or 7 years, don't worry about it!

    Don't know abotu the "hobo" comment, though I'd never suggest spandex as an alternative!
    (if they don't know who lance armstrong IS.. no point in trying to emulate him!)
    But maybe more professional "outdoor gear/mountain man" attire is called for!
    "her dad's a bit of a hobo! "yeah but he chops down trees with his bare hands!! swoooooooon!"


    My daughter thought I was weird for riding all over creation, until she realized that she can get on the subway at the same time, and I'll beat her across the city with enough time left for me to grab my coffee and cool down enough to stop sweating.

    I guess until they see there's some element worth interest, as opposed to "just riding", it won't click. *shrug*

    Don't sweat the small stuff... do you have a piece of glass hiding in your tire waiting to blow your wheel off the road tomorrow, and is she getting grades good enough to get a scholarship!

    Worry about that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by elvez
    of your commuting.
    I work about 6 miles from where I live and the kids go to school on my route.
    My 14 yr old daughter has recently begun to intensely dislike everything about me, but what really gets her goat is the fact that her friends see me on my bike.
    Apparently I look like a "hobo,"
    Ouch.
    My 16 yr old son still thinks its cool when I ride up to his school once in a while.

    Anyone have similar experiences?
    My daughter is five and thinks it's cool when I cross paths with her as I ride to work and she rides to school. Of course, she also thinks it's cool to dress in four different patterns of stripes, take a stuffed animal with her everywhere and watch Clifford the Big Red Dog.

    She also loves riding in the trail-a-bike. I hope she continues to like bikes, though she hardly ever rides her own. She's extremely careful about traffic, and so won't ride her bike anywhere with cars. While I'd rather she be overly-careful rather than careless, I feel like riding our low-traffic street with me present and watching is very safe. Sigh.
    We all get it in the end.

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    Hobo vs Pixie....do the math.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gary the No-Trash Cougar
    It's just a teenager thing, she'll get over it.
    I'm 19. This guy has it.

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    I was about to suggest wearing spandex instead of your regular outfit, since hobos never wear spandex, but um....maybe not.



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